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Mourning

Why Can't We Mourn With Muslims?

Jonathan Walton | Posted 02.13.2015 | Religion
Jonathan Walton

Lord have mercy on the Christian mother and the atheist father who are not able to enter into the emotions of a Muslim Father and Mother whose children were snatched from them too soon.

The Echo of the Youngest Son: A Heartfelt Valentine

Leslie Handler | Posted 02.12.2015 | Fifty
Leslie Handler

I cannot mourn the death of my mother-in-law. I cannot mourn her loss because I cannot mourn that which has not been lost. Her strength of love, respect, honor and grace have not been lost upon her death. They live on in all her children, but you can mostly hear them echo back from the heart beats of her youngest son.

Guns, Steel, Grit and Grief

David Katz, M.D. | Posted 01.26.2015 | Healthy Living
David Katz, M.D.

Guns and grief are a bad combination. Our judgment is clouded and undone in moments of aggrieved passion; we are least suited at such times to take on the roles of both jury and judge, leaving aside the illegality of such vigilantism. We may, in the throes of passion, misconstrue causes and misdirect blame. But we may hope to live through such moments, and see in a calmer, clarifying light.

My Daughter Asked How Daddy Died

Karen Sewell | Posted 01.22.2015 | Parents
Karen Sewell

Your desire to understand has always been so clear. It's one of your fiercest personality traits, and sometimes you and I butt heads over it. I've always known that you would want to understand this, and while we talked, it was as if I could see the gears working in your mind while you tried to sort it all out.

Re-NEW-all:Cultural New Year Catch-Up;January 2015

Jill Lynne | Posted 01.27.2015 | Arts
Jill Lynne

It is important to have that daily pause -- to meditate and tune out -- turning inward for insights and centering. However an extended period of Re-NEW-all -- disconnecting to re-connect in a more meaningful manner -- revitalizes one, body and soul.

The Upside of Loss

Todd Lombardo | Posted 01.14.2015 | Healthy Living
Todd Lombardo

It's a new year, and I made all these resolutions I'm sure to break. But the one thing I want to work harder at is seeing the silver lining, looking at the glass half-full, rather than shattered on the floor.

An Ebola Fighter Named Moses Leads Orphans to Safety

Amy Spies | Posted 02.21.2015 | World
Amy Spies

Moses treads a lonely trail through Ebola barricades to provide psychosocial aid so that these traumatized victims do not become another lost generation.

The Most Wonderful Time of the Year? When the Holidays Aren't So Jolly

Sezin Koehler | Posted 02.18.2015 | Impact
Sezin Koehler

To all of you who, like me, struggle through this time of year: Please be gentle with yourself. If grief visits, let it. Reach out if you need help. Set clear boundaries and don't be afraid to honor them even when you're feeling pressured not to. Don't force things.

Mourning What Should Have Been

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 02.15.2015 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

I think we must figure out how we can we give ourselves, and others, permission to mourn their should have beens. Can we give ourselves, and others, permission to feel it all -- the blessings, the lucky, the anger, the sadness, the guilt, and even, the shame?

How To Find Joy At the End of Life, Even While Planning A Funeral

Ellevate | Posted 02.01.2015 | Women
Ellevate

When faced with the sudden or even anticipated death of a loved one, we're all struck by how little one knows about what is wanted for a final send-off. We can be utterly unprepared as a family to deal with the practical details that goes far beyond one's last will and testament.

How My Mom's Death Changed My Definition of Family

Rachael Rifkin | Posted 01.26.2015 | Women
Rachael Rifkin

When I'm shopping and I see something she might like, I think about how much she loved chocolate and the color turquoise. And how strange it is to know that I won't be buying her anything anymore.

Holidays Without Loved Ones Are Tough. On Dogs.

Mel Miskimen | Posted 01.25.2015 | Fifty
Mel Miskimen

This will be our third Thanksgiving without my father's sidekick for close to 70 years -- my mother. We've all made adjustments. The only family member who lags behind, is Seamus, my 9-year-old black labrador.

The Funeral Dress

Eddie Parsons | Posted 01.06.2015 | Style
Eddie Parsons

There is a somber topic that sales people know too well. When a client comes in distraught and frustrated because they have to make a purchase that has no buyer's joy and often very little thought... the need to buy an outfit for a funeral.

The Upside of Early Loss

Kristina Cowan | Posted 12.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Kristina Cowan

Jim's tragedy seemed insulting to my already-injured family. Jim died on Sept. 5; my mom died on Sept. 7. She was 46 and I was 15. Jim was 47 and his oldest child was 15. History, cruel beast, had repeated herself in a mocking chorus of eerie parallels.

Loss is Loss and Comparison Only Leaves Us Alone In It

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 12.16.2014 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

Does it hurt less that I have lost three, but she has lost five? Does it hurt less that you at least got a couple of years with him? Does it hurt less that she lived a longer life and mine never grew?

Free Cancer Retreats: Altruism Lives in Harmony Hill

Judy Silk | Posted 12.15.2014 | Impact
Judy Silk

From the moment I set foot in the great lodge, I felt like a cradled soul. The counselors and house Moms took my symbolic hand and led me. Over the course of three days, I joined with other people who had lost their spouses.

Yahrzeit -- Remembering What We Have Lost

Andy Schmookler | Posted 12.15.2014 | Religion
Andy Schmookler

It is the morning of October 3rd. As I have for the past more than forty October 3rds, I take from the cupboard a special kind of candle and light it. As I do so, I think about my father.

The Advantages of Being a Packrat

Rachael Rifkin | Posted 12.09.2014 | Women
Rachael Rifkin

But when your mom passes away, your perspective shifts. Your sense of normal -- which included having your mom in your life until you were at least middle-aged -- is altered. You reevaluate your expectations and priorities.

When Grief Calls Forth the Healing

Mary Rockefeller Morgan | Posted 12.06.2014 | Healthy Living
Mary Rockefeller Morgan

The severing of a love relationship through death fractures the foundation of the bereaved. Our culture's common belief that one must rapidly get up and move on after such a loss results in denying death and repressing grief.

What Not To Say To A Parent Who Has Lost A Child

The Huffington Post | Kira Brekke | Posted 09.30.2014 | Parents

Losing a child is unspeakably painful, so finding the right words to say to those grieving can be difficult. Two parents who have both lost a chil...

A Fistful of Jeans: How it Actually Feels to Lose a Parent

Joe DeProspero | Posted 11.16.2014 | Parents
Joe DeProspero

The worst part of losing her wasn't finding her body; It wasn't even having to break the news to her mother (my grandmother) later that day. It was the moment I returned to my job and realized that I was expected to simply blend back into society as if I wasn't permanently damaged.

Don't Label Teens Dying in Our Streets -- We Mourn Them All

The University of Central Florida Forum | Posted 11.10.2014 | College
The University of Central Florida Forum

A headline is not a eulogy. A headline's purpose should be to help us to determine what's important in a news event. And while I realize the constant assault of our newsfeeds leads to higher-stake headlines, what's important is that a teenager -- not an "honor student" -- has been killed.

Keeping Their Memories Alive

Meryl Ain, Ed.D. | Posted 11.10.2014 | Impact
Meryl Ain, Ed.D.

We need to emphasize and celebrate the values, passions, memories and legacies of those we have lost rather than constantly rewinding how they were taken from us.

For My Dad

Randi Miller | Posted 11.03.2014 | DC
Randi Miller

My dad was not superhuman. He was just a man who was operating with the tools he was given by his own life experience. What a cool guy he ended up being, once I opened my eyes, and how grateful I am to have taken the time to get to know him.

This Is What Life Without Robin Williams Is Like: A TV Writer Copes

David S. Simon | Posted 10.20.2014 | Celebrity
David S. Simon

When someone like Robin Williams dies it prematurely speeds up life and forces you to stare down directly into the face of mortality. You feel frightened and helpless because, spoiler alert: you are very, very mortal. You always are and will always be.