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Mourning

Pushing Humpty Dumpty Off The Wall

Mina Samuels | Posted 05.19.2015 | Women
Mina Samuels

I hugged them and kissed them, these dolls I'd barely touched for more than 30 years. Finally, I went and got one of my father's shirts. I swaddled them in his shirt, added some pictures of myself as a child, closed up the bag, collected myself and took the bag out to the garage.

Divorce Is a Death: Divorce Lawyer Turned Client

Natalie Gregg | Posted 05.11.2015 | Divorce
Natalie Gregg

I used to tell my clients that divorce is a death of sorts. I didn't know that from experience but through watching former clients suffer and rebuild their lives. Now I firmly feel it personally. Today my own divorce was finalized.

Sharing Faith: How I Found Healing at a Funeral

Barb Abramson | Posted 05.01.2015 | Healthy Living
Barb Abramson

Despite the celebration of life, there is still a family in mourning, missing a wonderful man, husband and father who impacted others in a positive way, as so many shared that day. I know their church community as well as friends and colleagues will rally around them.

Father Shares How His Family Came Together After Gutting Loss

Eli Bendet-Taicher | Posted 04.24.2015 | Entertainment
Eli Bendet-Taicher

When we opened the real-life memory box sent by the hospital team who took care of Isli during the last days of her short life, Ido and I finally had the chance to grieve together. Even though we knew what would be in there, and the box lived in a closet that we opened daily, we still couldn't go through with opening it for more than a year.

Don't Let There Be Anonymity After Death

Dan Pontefract | Posted 04.13.2015 | Impact
Dan Pontefract

Like snowflakes, humans descend in various shapes and sizes. We're all unique. Some of those snowflakes are used to build snowmen. Others lie within the serenity of an open field, undisturbed until the warmth of spring peeks through.

Easter and Grief: An Inescapable Connection

Megan Devine | Posted 04.02.2015 | GPS for the Soul
Megan Devine

photo credit: Jarosław Pocztarski Even if you aren't a religious person or adhere to any particular faith, you can't really escape the whole Easter ...

What NOT to Say to Someone Who Is Grieving

Dr. Gail Gross | Posted 03.25.2015 | Healthy Living
Dr. Gail Gross

Here are some common reactions to death that you should avoid, and some helpful alternatives that you can use instead.

On Losing a Friend to Suicide and Learning to Understand Depression

Talia Lavin | Posted 05.19.2015 | Healthy Living
Talia Lavin

I have come to hate depression as fervently as anyone has ever hated cancer, or AIDS, or any of the other scourges that take our loved ones from us. Over the five years I knew her, I watched it slowly devour my friend.

Book Review: Math, Judaism, Family, Genius, Mourning, America, Russia -- A Heady Brew

Alan Elsner | Posted 05.19.2015 | Books
Alan Elsner

The mathematician in the title of this intriguing debut novel is Rachela Karonovitch, known as possibly the greatest woman math genius in history.

Conversations Over a Child's Grave

Sam Fiorella | Posted 05.17.2015 | Parents
Sam Fiorella

From first kiss to first break up, college application to job interview, we parents tend to plan for every situation, every conversation we'll have with our kids -- except for one.

I Lost My Mother 9 Months Into My Pregnancy

Jacqui Zadik | Posted 05.12.2015 | Parents
Jacqui Zadik

Twelve days after my mom died, my son was born. I'll never know if my mom let go after I gave her "permission" to, but it's something that I think about often.

Why Can't We Mourn With Muslims?

Jonathan Walton | Posted 04.15.2015 | Religion
Jonathan Walton

Lord have mercy on the Christian mother and the atheist father who are not able to enter into the emotions of a Muslim Father and Mother whose children were snatched from them too soon.

The Echo of the Youngest Son: A Heartfelt Valentine

Leslie Handler | Posted 04.14.2015 | Fifty
Leslie Handler

I cannot mourn the death of my mother-in-law. I cannot mourn her loss because I cannot mourn that which has not been lost. Her strength of love, respect, honor and grace have not been lost upon her death. They live on in all her children, but you can mostly hear them echo back from the heart beats of her youngest son.

Guns, Steel, Grit and Grief

David Katz, M.D. | Posted 03.28.2015 | Healthy Living
David Katz, M.D.

Guns and grief are a bad combination. Our judgment is clouded and undone in moments of aggrieved passion; we are least suited at such times to take on the roles of both jury and judge, leaving aside the illegality of such vigilantism. We may, in the throes of passion, misconstrue causes and misdirect blame. But we may hope to live through such moments, and see in a calmer, clarifying light.

My Daughter Asked How Daddy Died

Karen Sewell | Posted 03.24.2015 | Parents
Karen Sewell

Your desire to understand has always been so clear. It's one of your fiercest personality traits, and sometimes you and I butt heads over it. I've always known that you would want to understand this, and while we talked, it was as if I could see the gears working in your mind while you tried to sort it all out.

Re-NEW-all:Cultural New Year Catch-Up;January 2015

Jill Lynne | Posted 03.21.2015 | Arts
Jill Lynne

It is important to have that daily pause -- to meditate and tune out -- turning inward for insights and centering. However an extended period of Re-NEW-all -- disconnecting to re-connect in a more meaningful manner -- revitalizes one, body and soul.

The Upside of Loss

Todd Lombardo | Posted 03.16.2015 | Healthy Living
Todd Lombardo

It's a new year, and I made all these resolutions I'm sure to break. But the one thing I want to work harder at is seeing the silver lining, looking at the glass half-full, rather than shattered on the floor.

An Ebola Fighter Named Moses Leads Orphans to Safety

Amy Spies | Posted 02.21.2015 | World
Amy Spies

Moses treads a lonely trail through Ebola barricades to provide psychosocial aid so that these traumatized victims do not become another lost generation.

The Most Wonderful Time of the Year? When the Holidays Aren't So Jolly

Sezin Koehler | Posted 02.18.2015 | Impact
Sezin Koehler

To all of you who, like me, struggle through this time of year: Please be gentle with yourself. If grief visits, let it. Reach out if you need help. Set clear boundaries and don't be afraid to honor them even when you're feeling pressured not to. Don't force things.

Mourning What Should Have Been

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 02.15.2015 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

I think we must figure out how we can we give ourselves, and others, permission to mourn their should have beens. Can we give ourselves, and others, permission to feel it all -- the blessings, the lucky, the anger, the sadness, the guilt, and even, the shame?

How To Find Joy At the End of Life, Even While Planning A Funeral

Ellevate | Posted 02.01.2015 | Women
Ellevate

When faced with the sudden or even anticipated death of a loved one, we're all struck by how little one knows about what is wanted for a final send-off. We can be utterly unprepared as a family to deal with the practical details that goes far beyond one's last will and testament.

How My Mom's Death Changed My Definition of Family

Rachael Rifkin | Posted 01.26.2015 | Women
Rachael Rifkin

When I'm shopping and I see something she might like, I think about how much she loved chocolate and the color turquoise. And how strange it is to know that I won't be buying her anything anymore.

Holidays Without Loved Ones Are Tough. On Dogs.

Mel Miskimen | Posted 01.25.2015 | Fifty
Mel Miskimen

This will be our third Thanksgiving without my father's sidekick for close to 70 years -- my mother. We've all made adjustments. The only family member who lags behind, is Seamus, my 9-year-old black labrador.

The Funeral Dress

Eddie Parsons | Posted 01.06.2015 | Style
Eddie Parsons

There is a somber topic that sales people know too well. When a client comes in distraught and frustrated because they have to make a purchase that has no buyer's joy and often very little thought... the need to buy an outfit for a funeral.

The Upside of Early Loss

Kristina Cowan | Posted 12.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Kristina Cowan

Jim's tragedy seemed insulting to my already-injured family. Jim died on Sept. 5; my mom died on Sept. 7. She was 46 and I was 15. Jim was 47 and his oldest child was 15. History, cruel beast, had repeated herself in a mocking chorus of eerie parallels.