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Mourning

The Ten Commandments of Talking to Friends in Mourning

Rabbi Michael Knopf | Posted 11.12.2013 | Religion
Rabbi Michael Knopf

These are not the only rules, and you might discover good rules to supplement this list. You might also find that pieces of this list do not work for you. I hope you'll share your thoughts for additions or subtractions in the comments.

Image From Past Stirs Lifetime of Memories

Jan Angilella | Posted 11.09.2013 | Women
Jan Angilella

She's solid and strong in the photo. It will be years before Lupus ravages her health and attacks her kidneys. Did she even imagine that I'd give her a kidney one day?

Clutter, Memory and the Junk in My Car

Alison Rosen | Posted 10.30.2013 | Comedy
Alison Rosen

I think there's a lesson in here about clutter and memory and the passage of time -- and maybe about what happens when you don't finish processing everything. The truth is, I'm still trying to figure it out.

Woman Turns Up Alive 13 Days After Funeral

The Huffington Post | Amanda Scherker | Posted 08.23.2013 | Weird News

While just about every culture and religion has a time-honored way of commemorating the dead, what's the protocol for welcoming the buried back to lif...

Mourning the Dad Who Died Before He Could Accept His Gay Son

Ryan Buxton | Posted 10.08.2013 | Gay Voices
Ryan Buxton

I always assumed the years of hiding my truth from my dad didn't matter, that once I came out to him we'd have all the time in the world to reconcile our opposing viewpoints. Instead, closure was another thing we didn't get to share.

Children of God

Rabbi Robyn Fryer Bodzin | Posted 10.06.2013 | Religion
Rabbi Robyn Fryer Bodzin

Rabbi Carlebach used music to reach and inspire people. Following death, we all need to forge our own paths to get back to the Garden. For some its music, for others it is community and for still others it is just takes time.

My Mom and My First Dog, Now Both Long Gone

Ken White | Posted 10.02.2013 | San Francisco
Ken White

My curly hair, not a grey one among the mass, mushrooms grandly around me in the style of the times, 1975. We are young, happy. Today, I am older than my mother was when that picture was taken.

When Catastrophe Strikes -- Think Again

Marc Gopin | Posted 09.28.2013 | Healthy Living
Marc Gopin

As we all face moments in our family, our nation or on our planet when neighbors are going through a living hell, we need to work harder at giving enough comfort and support to mourners in catastrophe.

The Note That Brought Me To My Knees

Jessica Pearce Rotondi | Posted 09.24.2013 | Women
Jessica Pearce Rotondi

It never occurred to me that my mother could be torn between the family she was raising and the family that raised her.

Depressed? Your "SEEKING" System Might Not Be Working: A Conversation with Neuroscientist Jaak Panksepp

Karin Badt | Posted 09.17.2013 | Healthy Living
Karin Badt

Jaak Panksepp, the inventor of the term "affective neuroscience", is regarded as a radical in his field, with ground-breaking insights into emotional...

Just Keep Moving (Especially During Tempertantrums)

Chava Tombosky | Posted 09.15.2013 | Religion
Chava Tombosky

The key to surviving loss is to just keep on moving. Whether its loss from death, divorce, a move, or collagen, life changes. Either way life's gonna kick us in the pants, we might as well put one foot in front of the other and keep on moving forward.

How to Deal With the Death of a Child

Barbara Greenberg | Posted 09.14.2013 | Parents
Barbara Greenberg

Last night, we learned that despite the fact that an unarmed 17-year-old named Trayvon Martin was killed, his killer, George Zimmmerman is, at this po...

Joy Comes in the Mourning: Part II

Don Meyer, Ph.D. | Posted 09.02.2013 | College
Don Meyer, Ph.D.

"One short night sleep past, we wake eternally ,and Death shall be no more; Death, though shalt die." John Donne, author of "Death Be Not Proud" Las...

Feeling Guilty

Garret Kramer | Posted 08.19.2013 | Healthy Living
Garret Kramer

No matter what happens to you, or your current emotions, always look inside -- to the variable nature of your thinking -- to explain your feelings.

Dealing With Tragedy and Loss

Steve Wiens | Posted 08.04.2013 | Religion
Steve Wiens

When we encounter others who are in pain, we do not know what to do. We do not know how to comfort them. And so we say things to make a really awkward moment less awkward. When we do that, we're actually trying to comfort ourselves, which is understandable, but not helpful.

Missing My Sister Michelle

Kelli Gail | Posted 07.21.2013 | Women
Kelli Gail

This Memorial Day Weekend marks ten years since I've seen my little sister. I like to think she'd be proud of the person I have become.

The Unhappy Mother's Day

Rabbi Evan Moffic | Posted 07.12.2013 | Religion
Rabbi Evan Moffic

Mother's Day is one of the sweetest days of year, and we should celebrate it. In our celebration, however, let us not ignore the pain our friend and neighbor may be feeling.

Over 40, Single and Childless on Mother's Day

Melanie Notkin | Posted 07.08.2013 | Women
Melanie Notkin

I know what some of you may say: Have a baby on your own; adopt; foster. And a few of you may say: Sorry, lady, you should have thought of that earlier. You're just too old. But I want to be a mother.

Other Parents' Grief

Kate Blanchard | Posted 07.01.2013 | Parents
Kate Blanchard

Those of us with healthy children may, for a time, enjoy the luxury of remaining oblivious to their vulnerability and impermanence. But when a "close call" provides an unwelcome reality check, we can take some comfort in the fact that all parents are, really and truly, in this together

What Nobody Prepares You To Have To Tell Your Child

Andrea | Posted 06.26.2013 | Parents
Andrea

No one tells you that someday you might have to answer questions that don't have answers. No one tells you that you'll have to swallow so many tears to let them cry theirs.

Why I Can't Let Go Of Last Week In Boston

Felice Shapiro | Posted 06.26.2013 | Fifty
Felice Shapiro

Last week's news is this week's reality. I can't bring myself to write about anything except what happened this past week in Boston -- the explosions and their devastation on Boylston Street at the finish line of our cherished Boston Marathon on April 15, and the helicopter hovering over our condo, whirring all day long just last Friday, April 19 -- until Suspect #2 was captured.

Normal Reactions to Abnormal Events

David Kessler | Posted 06.24.2013 | Healthy Living
David Kessler

In the aftermath, it is important to remember that our grief is as unique as our fingerprints. Each of us will have our own normal reactions to the abnormal events that we have just witnessed.

Finding a Way Out of the Darkness

Hahrie Han | Posted 06.19.2013 | Parents
Hahrie Han

As a parent, how can I go on after learning that my very best efforts are not enough to protect my children from the worst kind of harm?

Celebrating Life and Love

Donna Steinhorn | Posted 06.05.2013 | Healthy Living
Donna Steinhorn

I had been told by a few friends who had been down this path, that to have your parent die in your arms was an amazing experience. One described it as "radiant." I admit I was skeptical, yet in the last hours of her life I didn't want to leave her side.

Blessed Are They Who Mourn

Karen M. Wyatt, M.D. | Posted 06.02.2013 | Healthy Living
Karen M. Wyatt, M.D.

It is clear that I must now make a new home for myself within my own heart. There I must create a door that is always open, a light that burns eternally, a spark that cherishes my name, and a blessing of continual self-forgiveness.