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Mourning

Why I'll Be Holding My Son A Little Tighter This Thanksgiving

Caren Chesler | Posted 01.21.2013 | Parents
Caren Chesler

Every year at this time, as I prepare a Thanksgiving dinner, I remember that the best bird I ever made was the year no one cared about the meal.

A Shared Trauma: The Death of Pan Am

Helen Davey | Posted 01.16.2013 | Healthy Living
Helen Davey

Following the devastation left in the path of Hurricane Sandy, I invite those who are suffering from this massive collective trauma to view this speech.

The Cat in a Book and in My Life

Dave Astor | Posted 01.09.2013 | Green
Dave Astor

I first met Angus in 2002, and we became close. Last winter, Angus started slowing down and sleeping even more than cats usually sleep. We brought him to the vet, and the diagnosis was leukemia.

Grave Images: San Luis Valley

Kathy T. Hettinga | Posted 01.08.2013 | College
Kathy T. Hettinga

Beginning in 1994, I began a 14-year project to document an unknown body of folk art found in the cemeteries of the San Luis Valley. Simplicity, expressiveness and a transformative use of common materials were found in the most evocative grave markers.

Why I'm Glad I Didn't Give Up On The Dating Scene

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 12.29.2012 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

If you decide that everyone in Dating World is carrying an idiot license because of the actions of a few, you are letting the idiots decide your destiny. No one has that right and no one should have that kind of power. Don't give up on companionship if you want it.

Yoga And Cigarettes: Remembering My Gram 'Ruthie The Rock'

Lindsey O'Neill | Posted 12.24.2012 | Religion
Lindsey O'Neill

My grandma is here today, but this time, I'm wearing all black, and my Uncle is standing on the altar, reciting her eulogy, reminding us of her voracious appetite for life. A woman of faith, a mother of responsibility, a wife of integrity, a grandmother of chocolate chip ice cream-laden love.

Critics, Critics Everywhere

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 12.22.2012 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

No one has the right to criticize how anyone suffering a loss handles anything -- from whether or not they visit a gravesite (be it sooner, later or ever) to a decision to sell everything that they own and sail around the world.

What Can We Say? Theology For Murder And For Living

Kent Annan | Posted 12.19.2012 | Religion
Kent Annan

The service ended. We said goodbye and hugged Fred in another of those moments when silence, speaking and actions need to find a way to rhyme.

Why I Wrote Poems About My Split

Sharon Olds | Posted 12.09.2012 | Divorce
Sharon Olds

Once I wrote the title poem of this new book, Stag's Leap, it was clear to me that there would be a book centering on the end of a long marriage -- poems of divorce, loss, longing and healing.

Finding A New Meaning For Prayer

Mary Anne Mercer | Posted 12.08.2012 | Religion
Mary Anne Mercer

Over six months has passed since my mother's death, and I have begun to realize that I may never fully solve those mysteries from my place in this world. But my search has begun.

Why I Spoke At My Ex-Husband’s Funeral

Judith Ruskay Rabinor Ph.D. | Posted 12.07.2012 | Divorce
Judith Ruskay Rabinor Ph.D.

My 68-year-old ex-husband, Arnie Rabinor, was diagnosed several months ago with non-operable pancreatic cancer. Within 10 weeks, he was gone. His loss was a stunning and heartbreaking blow.

'Ex' Does NOT Mark The Spot

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 11.24.2012 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

At exactly what point in time did a late spouse become an "EX"?

Laughter Is Sacred Space

Ted Swartz | Posted 11.20.2012 | Religion
Ted Swartz

On a path to be a Mennonite pastor, I had gone back to school at age 30 in order to prepare for seminary, along with three small children, a supportive wife and a congregation sponsoring us. While in undergrad I took an acting class, and fell in love with this art form.

Remembered Forever

Amy Koplow | Posted 11.13.2012 | Religion
Amy Koplow

In less than a week, the Jewish new year begins with the High Holy Days of Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur. As Jews look both forward and back, it is customary to visit the graves of our loved ones. We recall friends and family who shaped out lives, loved and nurtured us.

Processing Pain: How Hurt Leads To Opportunity

Amy Chan | Posted 11.07.2012 | Healthy Living
Amy Chan

I'm starting to understand and appreciate that situations such as breakups and loss can act like catalysts. Painful as they may be, they are opportunities in disguise, that give you the chance to rewrite the stories we attach to past events that ultimately shape our perception of reality.

The Surprising Communities That Surround Me

Rev. Dr. Martha R. Jacobs | Posted 10.28.2012 | Religion
Rev. Dr. Martha R. Jacobs

Each of these communities brought its own sense of sacredness and grace to me as I continue to mourn my mother's death and celebrate her life. I have learned a great deal about what it feels like to be cared for.

How Your Loss Can Transform You

Robin Amos Kahn | Posted 10.24.2012 | Healthy Living
Robin Amos Kahn

Truth: Your loss will transform you. This is the experience, and it is what it is. The transformation is often for the better. Not always, but usually -- especially if we find ways to get out of our own way.

Why I Cry In Public

Jillian Lauren | Posted 10.18.2012 | Women
Jillian Lauren

What do we travel for if not this -- to be lifted out of our ingrained identities and to experience our humanity?

Thousands Honor Sikh Temple Victims In Wisconsin

AP | DINESH RAMDE | Posted 08.10.2012 | Religion

Hundreds of people streamed into a Wisconsin high school Friday to pay their final respects to six worshippers gunned down by a white supremacist at a...

Happy 50th Birthday to a Brother Who Died Long Ago

Linda K. Wertheimer | Posted 10.08.2012 | Fifty
Linda K. Wertheimer

In 23 years, Kevin did a lot of living. Since he would have been 50, here are 50 things I remember about my brother.

Remembering Brett McLean

Frank Fredericks | Posted 10.03.2012 | Religion
Frank Fredericks

I think it's time we take off our hats to him. My heart goes out to his family, and thank you Brett for reminding me what it means to truly live like Jesus, even when it costs you dearly.

Eddie And The Met

Dr. Lawrence M. Schall | Posted 10.02.2012 | Fifty
Dr. Lawrence M. Schall

It's been a few days since I posted "The Last Days of Eddie Schall." Something there clearly touched lots of people. Late yesterday, I went back onlin...

Mourning Aurora

Judy Bolton-Fasman | Posted 09.29.2012 | Religion
Judy Bolton-Fasman

Here we are again, reading names. Piecing together life stories from the snapshots and accompanying biographical summaries. Here we are again in another "there but for the Grace of God Go I" moment.

Loss: How Long Do We Mourn It?

Laura Berman Fortgang | Posted 09.29.2012 | Healthy Living
Laura Berman Fortgang

Be sad, mourn and feel the loss. And then get back to living. We all need you to. As Robert Frost once wrote, "The best way out, is always through."

Tisha B'Av: Making Mourning Traditions Meaningful

Ariel Gros-Werter | Posted 09.24.2012 | Religion
Ariel Gros-Werter

What happens to the significance and meaning of a tradition when affluence, technology and cultural change divorce it from its original meaning and place in our lives? For many modern-day Jews, old ways can feel stale.