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Mutuality Matters

17 Tips to Negotiate and Preserve the Relationship

Kare Anderson | Posted 04.18.2016 | Business
Kare Anderson

My early mentor, the legendary decision scientist and author of numerous books, Howard Raiffa once said, "It is often easier to deal with someone who is acting like a jerk who knows what he wants than a seemingly pleasant person who doesn't."

How to Stay Sought-After

Kare Anderson | Posted 10.12.2016 | Good News
Kare Anderson

To stay relevant and sought-after, your most vital trait is your capacity to recruit the right team for a task, and enable them to use best talents together.

Kindness Can Open Hearts and Unexpected Opportunities

Kare Anderson | Posted 09.16.2016 | Impact
Kare Anderson

Sunny Summer is past. The upcoming holidays are times of great loving and loneliness and we often don't know who is experiencing which. For many it is a bit of both. For us all this can be a prime time for kindness, sometimes simply by sharing what we have.

How to Create a Convivial Team of Teams

Kare Anderson | Posted 09.13.2016 | Impact
Kare Anderson

Sadly, "In 1985 about half of Americans said they had a close friend at work; by 2004, this was true for only 39 percent," according to Wharton professor, Adam Grant.

How to Make Most Any Bad Situation Better

Kare Anderson | Posted 07.20.2016 | Impact
Kare Anderson

Finding the things you're doing right, as an individual or a team, and figuring out how to do them more often, together is considerably more pleasant and likely to succeed than feeling guilty for what you're doing badly and attempting to stop it.

5 Thoughtful Ways to Grow Your Network

Kare Anderson | Posted 07.08.2016 | Impact
Kare Anderson

When it comes to networking, most people focus on the sexy part - meeting new people. But for true mutuality and interconnectedness, it is vital to stay in touch and keep your relationships alive and growing once you've made that initial connection.

Five Ways to Create Greater Success With Others

Kare Anderson | Posted 05.25.2016 | Impact
Kare Anderson

Attract and serve unexpected allies with different talents and life and work experiences and you are more likely to gain insights that lead to your greater success - and theirs.

4 Ways to Become More Trustworthy

Kare Anderson | Posted 05.06.2016 | Impact
Kare Anderson

Even though it's been over a decade ago, I vividly recall my shock when sitting in a committee meeting for a non-profit. The chair asked us each to report back on the task we agreed to do. The second told us that she hadn't started on her assignment.

Help Others Be Happier and Higher-Performing Together at Work

Kare Anderson | Posted 06.16.2015 | Business
Kare Anderson

Stay sought-after by enabling others to proudly use their best talents together on things that matter to them. As William Butler Yeats wrote, "Because I helped to wind the clock, I come to hear it strike."

How We Destroy Relationships

Kare Anderson | Posted 06.12.2015 | Impact
Kare Anderson

When things go wrong, we tend to blind ourselves to other's feelings. We are more likely to fall into a destructive behavioral trap. Sadly, when we do, we cannot be empathic. We weaken that human bond that's vital to re-grouping and resilience.

Go Fishing for Closer Conversations

Kare Anderson | Posted 04.08.2015 | Good News
Kare Anderson

I swear, my dear. Sometimes our conversations remind me of a broken sword. She raised an eyebrow. Sharp as hell, he said, but lacking a point, wrote B...

Make 2015 the Year You Become More Resilient

Kare Anderson | Posted 03.02.2015 | GPS for the Soul
Kare Anderson

Helicopter parenting and micro-managing leadership both move us towards learned helplessness and away from resilience. Truly caring for others means w...

How to Pull in Friendships and Fresh Adventures

Kare Anderson | Posted 02.21.2015 | Good News
Kare Anderson

We have an understandable tendency in such times to seek out the familiar and comfortable as a buffer against the disruptive changes surrounding us.

What Captures Your Attention Controls Your Life

Kare Anderson | Posted 01.29.2015 | Impact
Kare Anderson

Giving and receiving undivided attention, even briefly, is the least that one individual can do for another -- and sometimes the most. And yet, attending to others doesn't just help them -- it helps us, by evoking responses that help the listener feel cared for, useful, and connected to the larger world.

Seek Those Who Don't Act Right Like You

Kare Anderson | Posted 01.03.2015 | Impact
Kare Anderson

Beginning with our first success in childhood, we become attached to what we believe are our strengths in temperament and talent, which enabled us to win. Why not? They seemed to be what makes us popular.

How to Become a Connective Leader Who Fosters Conviviality and Collaboration

Kare Anderson | Posted 12.23.2014 | Business
Kare Anderson

To boost bonding among others so they are more apt to work (or play) well together, ask them, when together, to do two powerfully simple things that can be done rather quickly.

How Rookies Stay Relevant

Kare Anderson | Posted 12.19.2014 | Business
Kare Anderson

What's it take to stay relevant in work today? That often cited and disputed study made famous by Malcolm Gladwell, it takes 10,000 hours to achieve ...

Stay Sought-After by Connecting Better in Conversation

Kare Anderson | Posted 11.22.2014 | Good News
Kare Anderson

Both online and in person, connective conversations are increasingly rare, so your capacity to connect deeply with diverse individuals will cause you to stand out and attract smarter support sooner in all parts of your life.

Four Ways to Accomplish Greater Things With Others

Kare Anderson | Posted 11.16.2014 | Business
Kare Anderson

Become an opportunity maker who enables others to use best talents together, more often, and you will become increasingly sought-after. Here are four proven methods to adapt to your situation.

Got a Loafer on Your Team?

Kare Anderson | Posted 09.24.2014 | Impact
Kare Anderson

Is someone not pulling their weight yet expecting to enjoy the fruits of your group's hard work? Here are five tips to prevent freeloading. Avoid th...

Spur Others to Share Even if You Aren't DeGeneres

Kare Anderson | Posted 05.06.2014 | Media
Kare Anderson

Sure Ellen DeGeneres sparked a most-shared Tweet, a $3 million Samsung charity donation, a parody and continuing, sometimes heated conversations. Yet even if you aren't a well-financed, likable celebrity, you can engage others, spread your idea and raise money

Complex Times Call for Connective Leaders

Kare Anderson | Posted 04.15.2014 | Business
Kare Anderson

The higher the technology in our world, the higher the human touch needed. The most sought-after leaders today are, by nature, connective. They become...

3 Wise Ways to Become Sought-After

Kare Anderson | Posted 04.12.2014 | Impact
Kare Anderson

As we grow older, we tend to lean on our particular area of strength, honing our capabilities in that area. As we do so, we become attached to that kind of intelligence, and without much conscious thought, we can get stuck in it.

Want a Life More Deeply Connected With Others?

Kare Anderson | Posted 01.23.2014 | Good News
Kare Anderson

Ironically, the more successful we are in proving our competence, the greater the distance we create with others. That's because we see warmth and competence as inversely related.