If we just embraced the fact that many things we want in our lives and our careers really take a lot of hard work, we'd enjoy the process so much more. Stop resisting the hard work and embrace it. Chances are that your friend who has it "easier" is working her toosh off and would tell you so if you asked.
One of the greatest gifts available among the many that great relationships offer, is the assistance that our partner provides in the face of the challenges that life inevitably serves up to us. We can meet those challenges with confidence, and can afford to take on those that are bigger, grander, and more exciting, resting into the assurance that we are fully supported.