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Nancy Colier

Dropping Your 'Me' Story

Nancy Colier | Posted 05.01.2015 | Healthy Living
Nancy Colier

Try refraining from using the moments of your life as material with which to construct your "me" story. Try experiencing your life instead of using your life to define yourself. It turns out, not taking your life so personally can bring great relief and even give you back your life!

Waiting for Nothing: Loving Yourself on Valentine's Day

Nancy Colier | Posted 04.14.2015 | Healthy Living
Nancy Colier

With Valentine's Day coming, love is the topic of the moment. When we think about love, we generally think in terms of who loves us and whom we love, ...

Your Truest Friend Resides Inside Your Own Heart

Nancy Colier | Posted 03.02.2015 | Healthy Living
Nancy Colier

As we age, it seems that fighting with friends becomes less necessary or even possible. There are fewer matters worth fighting about and even fewer wo...

How to Deepen Your Relationship With Yourself

Nancy Colier | Posted 12.29.2014 | Healthy Living
Nancy Colier

All experiences, welcomed, are opportunities to see and know the truth of ourselves more clearly. With this attitude, we can relate to our whole life, the sweet and the bitter, as enlightening, not necessarily wanted, but enlightening nonetheless, and in that light, meaningful.

Overcoming Navel-Gazaphobia (the Irrational Fear of Feelings)

Nancy Colier | Posted 11.25.2014 | Healthy Living
Nancy Colier

I recently attended a panel discussion on the topic of happiness. Early on in the dialogue, one of the panelists addressed what he considered the mist...

Self-Care in Times of Suffering

Nancy Colier | Posted 11.21.2014 | Healthy Living
Nancy Colier

There are times in life when things fall apart, when we lose something deeply important, something that makes us feel connected, grounded or safe. Som...

Has Life Turned Into a Popularity Contest?

Nancy Colier | Posted 07.13.2014 | Healthy Living
Nancy Colier

f we adults don't re-establish a firm gauge for what is important in life, for what sustains and nourishes us, makes us feel genuinely well, and gives us a deeper sense of meaning, we will emotionally and spiritually bankrupt ourselves and future generations.

Mindfulness for the Uncooperative Mind

Nancy Colier | Posted 07.02.2014 | Healthy Living
Nancy Colier

The only things needed for mindfulness are a mind to practice with, a willingness to try and stay present and an interest to meet yourself and your actual experience.

Loving a Narcissist Without Losing Yourself

Nancy Colier | Posted 06.18.2014 | Healthy Living
Nancy Colier

It is very difficult for some people to see anything as happening separate from and not in relation to them. People who suffer with this view of the world experience everything as a reflection and commentary on who they are, an abandonment or affirmation of themselves.

Are You Feeding on Your Pain... Past Its Expiration Date?

Nancy Colier | Posted 06.07.2014 | Healthy Living
Nancy Colier

The shelf life of most intense feelings is quite short. A strong feeling, which is not fed by our thoughts about it, can pass through us in a rather short time. It is our mind that, counter-intuitively, does not want us to let go of our pain.

There Are No More Tables for Two

Nancy Colier | Posted 05.24.2014 | Healthy Living
Nancy Colier

These days, when couples go out to eat together, the first thing they do is pull out their devices, if they are not already in their clutches, and place them on the table between each other.

Is Technology Worsening Our Basic Restlessness?

Nancy Colier | Posted 05.13.2014 | Healthy Living
Nancy Colier

We need to stay fiercely aware of its power to steer us away from our true needs. We must remain mindful of our own minds and careful not to be seduced into the unconsciousness that technology makes possible.

Being in the Moment When We Don't Like the Moment

Nancy Colier | Posted 04.30.2014 | Healthy Living
Nancy Colier

Life includes experiences we want and ones we don't. We are better at being present in the ones we want, and we need more practice staying in the moments we don't want. Many people ask me why we would even try and be present in the bad moments.

Because You Feel Sad Doesn't Mean You Have to Be Sad

Nancy Colier | Posted 04.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Nancy Colier

Mindfulness check! What liberation, to become aware of our own mind. With all the recent attention on mindfulness, we are getting better at being ab...

10 Best Practices For Staying Present

Nancy Colier | Posted 04.12.2014 | Healthy Living
Nancy Colier

Ours is a society obsessed with FOMO. And yet, many of us miss out on the most important thing of all, our own life. Seems we ought to be worrying less about missing the next party and more about missing existence.

Mindfulness: Has Your Ego Slipped Inside Your Witness?

Nancy Colier | Posted 03.29.2014 | Healthy Living
Nancy Colier

Mindfulness is more than a social media trend. True mindfulness is a challenge that requires the fierceness of an awareness warrior, but it is a challenge that is well worth the effort.

Stop Hating Yourself for Hating Vacation

Nancy Colier | Posted 03.15.2014 | Healthy Living
Nancy Colier

Something amazing happened on this holiday. It seems that all the years of spiritual practice kind of kicked in. When I stopped judging myself for the experience I was having, stopped hating myself for hating vacation, I discovered two wonderful things: humor and compassion.

he Beauty in NOT Keeping Up With the Joneses

Nancy Colier | Posted 03.10.2014 | Parents
Nancy Colier

Lately, I have been under fierce pressure from my daughter to keep up with her Joneses. Her keeping up, however, involves my wallet, and at the moment, something called an iPhone 5C.

Brave New Auto-Corrected World: Engineering Life One Letter at a Time

Nancy Colier | Posted 02.05.2014 | Media
Nancy Colier

In addition to designing and mutating reality, the auto-corrector is now contributing yet another mirror to the funhouse that is human communication.

Uncovering Your Limitless Self

Nancy Colier | Posted 02.01.2014 | Healthy Living
Nancy Colier

Freedom and happiness appear when we realize that we are not -- fundamentally -- made of any of the hats that we wear.

Last Minute Itis: Are Our Smartphones Turning Us Into Ill-Mannered Cads?

Nancy Colier | Posted 01.23.2014 | Technology
Nancy Colier

We leave our lives forever loose, with the option always present that if something better comes up or we change our mind, we're out. We live in a constant state of "we'll see."

How to Stop Being Defensive in Close Relationships

Nancy Colier | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Nancy Colier

The next time the opportunity to know another's experience presents itself, try out what it feels like to listen without strategizing to keep yourself positively positioned -- without defending the story of who you are and what you have or have not done.

The Secret to a Wonderful Life: Kill the 'Me' Who's Living It

Nancy Colier | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Nancy Colier

It takes a tremendous amount of effort to uphold a fixed identity. We have to keep doing things that a "person like us" would do. We have to keep making sure that nothing happens that threatens our identity or who we have decided "we are."

We Are Using the Same Words, But Are We Speaking the Same Language?

Nancy Colier | Posted 11.05.2013 | Healthy Living
Nancy Colier

The problem is not so much that we are hearing different things in the same words, but the fact that we believe that we are meaning the same thing. This misunderstanding causes many of the problems that we run into in our relationships and indeed every form of human interaction.

The Secret to Meaningful Relationships: Be Willing to Be Uncomfortable

Nancy Colier | Posted 10.11.2013 | Healthy Living
Nancy Colier

We will never end up anywhere deeply satisfying by avoiding challenge. Each moment that we are willing to be uncomfortable in a relationship, to live in and through the messiness, is a drop of gold in the relationship itself.