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Nancy Colier

When We Need Empathy From Our Partner But Receive Judgment

Nancy Colier | Posted 09.16.2016 | Home
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Try it out for a day: be mindful of your moment to moment choices between empathy and judgment--not just for others but for yourself as well. Try seeing from and through the vulnerability parts of yourself and others, and notice where it takes you, inside and out.

Why We Get Caught In Power Struggles, And How To Let Them Go

Nancy Colier | Posted 07.12.2016 | Home
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The good news is that we can break out of habitual patterns--we can choose who and how we want to be in each moment, what part of ourselves we want to strengthen, and ultimately, what kind of life experience we want to create.

Surrender As The Path To Peace, And Power!

Nancy Colier | Posted 06.29.2016 | Home
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Surrender isn't something that our minds can accomplish, but it is something that, with awareness, we can invite into our lives.

When Posting Your Life Is More Important Than Living It

Nancy Colier | Posted 05.23.2016 | Home
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Social media has turned life and its experiences into an exercise in narcissism. No matter what the experience is actually about, it becomes about you, the person who is living it.

When Is It Time to Stop Trying to Fix Yourself?

Nancy Colier | Posted 05.12.2016 | Home
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Try it out for a moment -- this moment. Just let yourself be. Give yourself permission to have the experience you are having, whatever it is, with no story about whether it is right or wrong, good or bad. Feel how you actually are. It's that direct and that simple.

4 Steps to Stop Blaming

Nancy Colier | Posted 03.28.2016 | Home
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Practice these steps and when you forget to practice them, remember and start again. If you commit to making this effort, you will grow in ways you can't yet know, and so will your relationships and your life.

What to Do About the People Who Blame You for Everything

Nancy Colier | Posted 01.13.2017 | Home
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My recent post, "When You're In Relationship With A Blamer," inspired overwhelming feedback, both from people who feel they receive blame and those wh...

When You're in a Relationship With a Blamer

Nancy Colier | Posted 12.19.2016 | Home
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There is no better time for growing than the holiday season. And not just growing in the belly, but in the heart and mind as well. Family interactions, particularly those that go on over a period of consecutive days, offer profound opportunities for self-awareness, learning, and evolution.

Who's In Charge, Computers or Humans?

Nancy Colier | Posted 12.13.2016 | Home
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Something remarkable happened yesterday, not remarkable good but remarkable crazy. I was riding in one of the new group taxis that have taken over Ne...

How to Make Every Day Feel Sacred

Nancy Colier | Posted 11.30.2016 | Home
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I recently returned from a remarkable and different kind of weekend. It was a weekend infused with poetry, ritual, music, beauty and kindness. Three...

Do We Need Neuroscience to Teach Us What We Already Know?

Nancy Colier | Posted 11.14.2016 | Home
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Is there anything one can read these days that isn't about neuroscience? Could there be anything left to scan in the MRI tube? Those parts of life tha...

Are Your 'Shoulds' Really Helping You?

Nancy Colier | Posted 08.18.2016 | Home
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Each time you hear yourself saying or thinking what "should" be happening, flip it around and ask the question, what is happening? Drop your fight with reality, your narrative about what "should" be, and you'll discover that reality, unburdened by your opposition, is a lot different than you think. The surest way to find peace is not to win the war, but to stop the fighting.

Spiritual Beings on a Human Journey: How to Remember Our Stardust

Nancy Colier | Posted 07.15.2016 | Home
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"We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience." Most of us have heard these words from the...

Dropping Your 'Me' Story

Nancy Colier | Posted 05.01.2016 | Home
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Try refraining from using the moments of your life as material with which to construct your "me" story. Try experiencing your life instead of using your life to define yourself. It turns out, not taking your life so personally can bring great relief and even give you back your life!

Waiting for Nothing: Loving Yourself on Valentine's Day

Nancy Colier | Posted 04.14.2015 | Home
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With Valentine's Day coming, love is the topic of the moment. When we think about love, we generally think in terms of who loves us and whom we love, ...

Your Truest Friend Resides Inside Your Own Heart

Nancy Colier | Posted 03.02.2015 | Home
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As we age, it seems that fighting with friends becomes less necessary or even possible. There are fewer matters worth fighting about and even fewer wo...

How to Deepen Your Relationship With Yourself

Nancy Colier | Posted 12.29.2014 | Home
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All experiences, welcomed, are opportunities to see and know the truth of ourselves more clearly. With this attitude, we can relate to our whole life, the sweet and the bitter, as enlightening, not necessarily wanted, but enlightening nonetheless, and in that light, meaningful.

Overcoming Navel-Gazaphobia (the Irrational Fear of Feelings)

Nancy Colier | Posted 11.25.2014 | Home
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I recently attended a panel discussion on the topic of happiness. Early on in the dialogue, one of the panelists addressed what he considered the mist...

Self-Care in Times of Suffering

Nancy Colier | Posted 11.21.2014 | Home
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There are times in life when things fall apart, when we lose something deeply important, something that makes us feel connected, grounded or safe. Som...

Has Life Turned Into a Popularity Contest?

Nancy Colier | Posted 07.13.2014 | Home
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f we adults don't re-establish a firm gauge for what is important in life, for what sustains and nourishes us, makes us feel genuinely well, and gives us a deeper sense of meaning, we will emotionally and spiritually bankrupt ourselves and future generations.

Mindfulness for the Uncooperative Mind

Nancy Colier | Posted 07.02.2014 | Home
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The only things needed for mindfulness are a mind to practice with, a willingness to try and stay present and an interest to meet yourself and your actual experience.

Loving a Narcissist Without Losing Yourself

Nancy Colier | Posted 06.18.2014 | Home
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It is very difficult for some people to see anything as happening separate from and not in relation to them. People who suffer with this view of the world experience everything as a reflection and commentary on who they are, an abandonment or affirmation of themselves.

Are You Feeding on Your Pain... Past Its Expiration Date?

Nancy Colier | Posted 06.07.2014 | Home
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The shelf life of most intense feelings is quite short. A strong feeling, which is not fed by our thoughts about it, can pass through us in a rather short time. It is our mind that, counter-intuitively, does not want us to let go of our pain.

There Are No More Tables for Two

Nancy Colier | Posted 05.24.2014 | Home
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These days, when couples go out to eat together, the first thing they do is pull out their devices, if they are not already in their clutches, and place them on the table between each other.

Is Technology Worsening Our Basic Restlessness?

Nancy Colier | Posted 05.13.2014 | Home
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We need to stay fiercely aware of its power to steer us away from our true needs. We must remain mindful of our own minds and careful not to be seduced into the unconsciousness that technology makes possible.