I'm often blown away by how many times I see my clients "freeze up" as they approach the process of finding a nanny. It's pretty often that I have to remind these fantastic parents that this is an important decision (not one left to simply asking your friend's nanny if they have any recommendations) and one that will require some legwork if you want the ideal match.
The older I become, the more I have thought about Che Che and her life outside of me - her now-adult daughter Hazel back in Clark and their large, affectionate family I'd sporadically meet over pixelated Skype sessions. Not unlike my mother, as I came to learn more of her story, I realized there was some contentment to be found.
While I consider my former helper to be one of the most important figures in my life, I won't pretend that our relationship hasn't affected the broader family dynamic. A few years ago, for example, Che Che told me that our current helper, whom my sister and I call Che Che Miriam, didn't like her. "What makes you think that?" I said uncomfortably.
Parents need to emphasize to their caregivers the importance of putting away their phones while at work as someone would do in any other job. Of course it is difficult to completely disconnect, however, during work hours most professionals check in at certain points throughout the day and for caregivers this would be when the children are napping or engaged in another activity.
Taking a babysitter along on the family vacation provides you with the freedom and support necessary to truly feel like you're on vacation. It gives you the flexibility to see sights that aren't kid friendly, enjoy nightlife, and participate in activities that are not possible when you're caring for young children.