Sadly, Brad and Angelina's marriage isn't the only one to crumble. Nearly half of all first marriages and an even higher percentage of second and third nuptials end in divorce. Though unfortunate for the couples involved -- and as Brad has proclaimed in his post-split statement -- what really matters is the kids.
As she drove away that final time, I watched out the window with tears rolling down my face. My daughter stood next to me, blowing kisses. An important chapter in our lives had closed; our nanny was leaving for new adventures. This woman who first entered our home as a stranger, left as a family member. And in the process, she made me a better parent.
Parents, I can see where you are coming from. Truly, I can. Childcare is expensive. The idea of paying top dollar for someone to sit at your house while your child is sleeping can be difficult to swallow. But here's the thing -- your nanny/babysitter isn't doing "nothing" -- they are taking care of your child.
Using these three styles as a framework, do your best to articulate your own approach. Do you have a lot of rules, or are you more laid-back? Do your children have a lot of autonomy, or do you like to be involved with everything--from homework to playdates, to what clothes they put on in the morning?
I'm often blown away by how many times I see my clients "freeze up" as they approach the process of finding a nanny. It's pretty often that I have to remind these fantastic parents that this is an important decision (not one left to simply asking your friend's nanny if they have any recommendations) and one that will require some legwork if you want the ideal match.