Two questions: How did you end up in this situation, and do you want to make it work or not? For the first, I suggest therapy of your own, focusing on your early life, and patterns you may have witnessed with your caregivers.
Although problems may have preceded the separation and divorce, the clear delineation may now lead a narcissist to behave in ways that punish the former spouse and, by clear association, impact the children too.
In order to help you make sense of what's happened, let's take a look at the red flags that were present before the move. You say "supposed" fiance but what I'm inferring is that you had a lot of promises but no ring on your finger. That would be a sign that things aren't right.
Narcissistic, bullying, indifferent, degrading to others and unapologetic about it: this is the psychological face of Republican presidential front-runner Donald Trump and the kind of leader 68 percent of registered Republicans (47.4 million Americans) apparently want and are willing to vote for.
This concept struck such a collective chord in my book Positive Energy that in Emotional Freedom I illustrate how it applies to protecting your emotions and not absorbing other people's negativity. In the book I discuss these vampires to watch for and ways to deal with them.
To get to the bottom of this mystery, Mitja Back and colleagues recently conducted a study in which they tracked changes in popularity over several time points. They drew on their new theory of narcissism, called the "Narcissistic Admiration and Rivalry Concept."
We as a nation are terrified of feeling small, worthless, and (inter)dependent on others, so we tend to latch ourselves to leaders who promise power, strength, and complete control. That's the Donald Trump/America romance.
We love to complain about friends who constantly post about their fabulous relationships, jobs, and experiences on social media, but research shows these expressions of gratitude can actually make people happier.
Controlling, combative, and rarely contrite, a narcissist can turn an unpleasant divorce into a full-blown nightmare -- unless you know the legal secrets for keeping this arrogant personality type in check.
Melanie was no longer exhausted and depleted, nor was she getting sick so often. By defining her own goodness, she no longer felt that she had to prove her love to anyone. She knew she was a loving person and she knew that she deserved to be treated with caring and respect.