It doesn't hurt to research good family lawyers even after your divorce is final. Reasonable divorced parents are typically able to work out disagreements without resorting to lawyers. But you weren't married to a reasonable person. You were married to a narcissist.
The great thing about celebrity narcissism is that we hold the clicker. When we've had enough, we can simply move on to another distraction. In our lives, the closer the narcissist is, the hard it is to escape the vortex.
While the parents of toddlers in tiaras may be hyper focused on enhancing their children's beauty -- narrow as that 'talent' may be -- is it really that different from the dynamics involved in other children's competitions?