One would think that after spending almost 20 years living in downtown Chicago it would be unlikely that I fall victim to a scam. Not the case. A couple weeks ago, I took my kids to the Cubs game. It was a perfect weather day, we had great seats, the game was nail biting, and the hot dogs delicious. Everyone was happy.
Fear of change is one of the biggest characteristics and challenges of a divorce. It doesn't matter whether your spouse left you or you left him, change is scary. Even if deep in your heart you know the marriage can't work any longer, change is scary. And even if you know that staying in the past is most likely worse than facing the unknown future, change is scary.
Self-awareness is defined as "knowing self well," but put in the context of divorce, I think it means having the courage to look in the mirror and say, "Hey, a lot of this (or all) was my fault." That is something I rarely hear from any men or women getting divorced. Many refuse to take any accountability for the split.
Negative self-talk during divorce is the result of a temporary lack of self-esteem that occurs while going through a divorce. I can remember feeling like this weak, exhausted person I didn't even recognize. I lacked self-worth, confidence and self-love. Basically, I forgot about any good qualities I had.