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20 Ways To Cope When Your Divorce is Driving You Nuts

Jackie Pilossoph | Posted 06.03.2016 | Divorce
Jackie Pilossoph

Of all the emotions a person can feel while going through a divorce-fear, sadness, guilt, self-pity, anger, and resentment, one of the worst ones migh...

What Getting Ripped Off Taught Me About Divorce Anger

Jackie Pilossoph | Posted 05.26.2016 | Divorce
Jackie Pilossoph

One would think that after spending almost 20 years living in downtown Chicago it would be unlikely that I fall victim to a scam. Not the case. A couple weeks ago, I took my kids to the Cubs game. It was a perfect weather day, we had great seats, the game was nail biting, and the hot dogs delicious. Everyone was happy.

Keep Hating. It's Good For the Soul

Jackie Pilossoph | Posted 05.19.2016 | Divorce
Jackie Pilossoph

Hating your ex is toxic. It is toxic to your kids, to your professional life, to your romantic relationships and mostly to yourself. Hating long enough will kill you. It's a really, really bad disease.

Facebook: Is It The Devil For Divorcees?

Jackie Pilossoph | Posted 05.13.2016 | Divorce
Jackie Pilossoph

Although I like Facebook a lot, I think there are so many evils that come with the social media giant, and that for divorcees and those going through a breakup, it truly can be the devil.

The Rollercoaster Ride of Being Newly Separated

Jackie Pilossoph | Posted 05.05.2016 | Divorce
Jackie Pilossoph

My last piece of advice is, don't let the divorce make you bitter. I am of the opinion that not being bitter is something you need to nip in the bud early in the divorce process. In other words, catch it now before it becomes habit

Divorce Advice: How To Deal With "Her"

Jackie Pilossoph | Posted 04.13.2016 | Divorce
Jackie Pilossoph

Trying to cope with divorce isn't easy, but gets even more difficult when you find out your ex is dating someone, which in my opinion usually happens ...

4 Reasons Why Co-Parenting Post Divorce Matters More Than Ever

Dana Westreich Hirt | Posted 04.11.2016 | Divorce
Dana Westreich Hirt

Just like parenting with a live-in spouse or partner, co-parenting has its joys -- and its challenges. In my view, though, co-parents have an extra responsibility to their children given the family rupture. Here are four reasons why effective co-parenting matters more than ever.

What A Windy Day Taught Me About Fear Of Change

Jackie Pilossoph | Posted 04.08.2016 | Divorce
Jackie Pilossoph

Fear of change is one of the biggest characteristics and challenges of a divorce. It doesn't matter whether your spouse left you or you left him, change is scary. Even if deep in your heart you know the marriage can't work any longer, change is scary. And even if you know that staying in the past is most likely worse than facing the unknown future, change is scary.

What Divorced Men Don't Expect When Dating Again

Jackie Pilossoph | Posted 03.24.2016 | Divorce
Jackie Pilossoph

No one doubts that going through a divorce is devastating. For months, sometimes years, people experience intense stress, fear, anger, and sadness. But there are silver linings of divorce, one in particular that I think is commonly experienced by divorced men.

5 Toxic People You Will Meet While Dating After Divorce

Laura Lifshitz | Posted 03.18.2016 | Divorce
Laura Lifshitz

Dating after divorce is tough territory and it needs to be done right and it can be, as long as you use common sense, date when you are truly ready, and avoid getting your heart invested with the wrong people.

A Prayer Every Newly Separated Person Should Read Daily

Jackie Pilossoph | Posted 01.21.2016 | Divorce
Jackie Pilossoph

It all began at a diner where I was having lunch with my boyfriend. I can't even remember what we were talking about, but somehow the conversation shifted to me complaining about being a single mom with not enough time and some other typical challenges that go along with being divorced.

Self-Awareness: It Paves The Way for Inner Peace After Divorce

Jackie Pilossoph | Posted 01.10.2016 | Divorce
Jackie Pilossoph

Self-awareness is defined as "knowing self well," but put in the context of divorce, I think it means having the courage to look in the mirror and say, "Hey, a lot of this (or all) was my fault." That is something I rarely hear from any men or women getting divorced. Many refuse to take any accountability for the split.

What You Desperately Need During Your Divorce

Jackie Pilossoph | Posted 12.29.2015 | Divorce
Jackie Pilossoph

Patience might be one of the hardest things to manage. But, if you are wise enough to find it, your divorce journey will be a lot smoother. AND it will have a happier ending. Instead of ending up in the garbage shoot, you'll find yourself polishing your golden egg.

What Does the Real Face of Divorce Look Like?

Jackie Pilossoph | Posted 12.11.2015 | Divorce
Jackie Pilossoph

I think that the silver lining of divorce is that it offers a woman an opportunity to reinvent herself, mainly because if you think about it, she is forced to.

The 3 Game Changers That Made Me Happy After Divorce

Laura Lifshitz | Posted 10.21.2015 | Divorce
Laura Lifshitz

You can't undo the past. End the references to old fights. You will never make them better. You will most likely, never get that "I'm sorry" from your ex that you always wanted. You will never repair the marriage if it didn't repair when you tried to save it from divorce.

9 Things You May Be Thinking During Divorce, And What To Think Instead

Jackie Pilossoph | Posted 10.21.2015 | Divorce
Jackie Pilossoph

There are two very difficult emotions that almost everyone going through a divorce experiences for a long time: Anxiety and fear. Here are 9 things you might be thinking during your divorce which could be causing anxiety and fear, and 9 ways to train your mind to re-think them.

The Key To Healing Your Broken Heart

Jackie Pilossoph | Posted 10.13.2015 | Divorce
Jackie Pilossoph

Love is almost magical, in my opinion. Because when true love happens, everything is really, really easy. Of course, everyone has issues in a relationship. I'm not saying it's going to be perfect. But, when you meet the one who won't break your heart, the relationship will just flow like a river.

Stop The Negative Self-Talk During Your Divorce

Jackie Pilossoph | Posted 09.21.2015 | Divorce
Jackie Pilossoph

Negative self-talk during divorce is the result of a temporary lack of self-esteem that occurs while going through a divorce. I can remember feeling like this weak, exhausted person I didn't even recognize. I lacked self-worth, confidence and self-love. Basically, I forgot about any good qualities I had.

10 Ways To Help Someone Going Through A Divorce

Jackie Pilossoph | Posted 07.28.2015 | Divorce
Jackie Pilossoph

Perhaps almost as bad a going through a divorce yourself is watching someone you love go through one. Whether it's a parent, a son, a daughter, or a close relative or friend, seeing someone in that kind of pain can cause you anxiety and make you feel helpless and frustrated.

9 Reasons An Amicable Divorce Could Turn Ugly in a Heartbeat

Jackie Pilossoph | Posted 07.21.2015 | Divorce
Jackie Pilossoph

Enjoy something out of every day. Because an ugly divorce means lots of unpredictability and bombs dropped. It feels uneasy and creepy and scary.

A Key Word in Ending Up Happy After Divorce

Jackie Pilossoph | Posted 07.14.2015 | Divorce
Jackie Pilossoph

There are countless reasons why people get divorced, but they all the reasons come down to one commonality: one or both people in the marriage decided they would be happier alone rather than staying married.

Second Thoughts: Completely Expected In Divorce

Jackie Pilossoph | Posted 07.07.2015 | Divorce
Jackie Pilossoph

When I got a question from a reader asking, Is it normal to have second thoughts about divorce? I smiled sadly, and answered to myself, "I don't think it's normal NOT to have second thoughts about divorce."

How To Talk To A Woman: 12 Tips

Jackie Pilossoph | Posted 06.29.2016 | Divorce
Jackie Pilossoph

When a newly divorced reader emailed me, asking "How do I talk to a woman?" I felt like as a divorced woman, I might be able to help.

Why Is This Guy's Ex Obsessed With His Love Life

Jackie Pilossoph | Posted 06.08.2016 | Divorce
Jackie Pilossoph

Unless she did something unthinkably horrible to you, you might want to consider being friendly with her. It might work if you set boundaries and focus on the fact that the two of you were once significant to each other, which justifies some type of positive relationship, in my opinion.

11 Ways to Jumpstart the Recovery of Your Divorce

Jackie Pilossoph | Posted 05.11.2016 | Divorce
Jackie Pilossoph

When a spouse leaves, it can seem almost impossible to imagine being happy again someday. In one woman's case, her husband has taken her youth and your innocence, and she really doesn't know what life is like without him. It's very traumatizing and will have an affect on her forever.