I've realized balance is probably something that DJs need more than people with normal jobs, sunlit ones where you can just eat a Chop't salad at your desk and hit Soul Cycle after your last meeting of the day. A DJ's cubicle is everyone's party, and that's not a workspace where balance is easy to achieve.
I have mixed feelings about straight men in gay bars. Should gay spaces be for gay people only? Straight men can disrupt the aura of acceptance in a gay space. We go to gay bars and clubs not just to drink, dance and score, but to celebrate our own desires in a safe place, away from homophobic hecklers and heterosexuality.