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Non Monogamy

Top 10 Reasons for Being -- and Staying -- NON-Monogamous

Em & Lo | Posted 02.01.2016 | Women
Em & Lo

Monogamy has had its turn, so let's give non-monogamy a chance. In a culture dominated by fundamentalist religious values, it's easy to be overwhelmed by the chorus of slut-shaming that arises when the topic of simultaneous multiple partners comes up.

This Is the Opposite of Jealousy

Renato Barucco | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Renato Barucco

Psychologist Bram Buunk studied the fascinating emotion we call jealousy over the course of four decades. The focus and the critical questions of his ...

How Gay and Lesbian Couples Make Marriage Better

Julie R. Enszer | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Julie R. Enszer

Now that marriage equality is the law of the land and LGBT couples can get married in every state--and have their marriage recognized in every state--let's talk about the radical new possibilities for living, learning, and loving together.

Why I Choose An Open Relationship

Melissa Clark | Posted 10.01.2015 | Divorce
Melissa Clark

I'm not saying that an affair does not leave serious emotional scars which may potentially rival the physical scars that result from abuse, but so do a number of other things one person can do to another over the course of a marriage.

The Open Relationship Toolkit: 6 Keys To Success in Honest Outsourcing

Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A. | Posted 09.23.2015 | Women
Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A.

To begin honest outsourcing takes an acknowledgment that no one person, or relationship, can ever fulfill all of our desires or needs, nor should we want it to. Most people already acknowledge this in one way or another, but when it comes to outsourcing sex or romance many folks feel threatened.

How To Enjoy A More Creative Sex Life Without Upsetting Your Partner

Pamela Madsen | Posted 09.18.2015 | Fifty
Pamela Madsen

So what is a "Relationship Pioneer" and how does anyone stay together happily for 10, 20, or 30-plus years? I think a 'Relationship Pioneer' is all of us that are not willing to throw away our 'foundational relationship' because we need something more added over time: whatever THAT more is.

Non-Monogamy Realness: The Pros and Cons of Honest Outsourcing

Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A. | Posted 09.16.2015 | Women
Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A.

Whenever we talk to anyone about non-monogamy, the first question we always get is "Yes, in theory, but do non-monogamous relationships really work?" The simple answer is yes.

Outsourcing Honestly: How Opening Up a Relationship Can Make it Stronger

Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A. | Posted 09.08.2015 | Weddings
Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A.

The belief that a lifetime of monogamy is the only way sets people up for a lot of pain and failure, as even most monogamous folks (a few unicorns aside) will generally have more than one partner in their lifetime.

An Introduction to Outsourcing (Not the Donald Trump Kind)

Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A. | Posted 08.26.2015 | Women
Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A.

In all relationships, we are in an ongoing negotiation of desires, boundaries, and capacities. Each of us needs to honor the other's desires and be as honest as possible about our own, knowing that we will sometimes feel disappointment in the face of differences.

Life Is Short. Have an Affair: Part Deux

Meredith Masony | Posted 07.24.2015 | Women
Meredith Masony

I decided that I need to write a follow up piece to reply to some of the comments that I received via email and on my site. Please keep in mind that I am a humor blogger and I do not have the ability to keep sarcasm out of anything that I write.

The Early Bird Gets the Sperm ... to the Egg

Rob Brooks | Posted 06.11.2016 | Science
Rob Brooks

What gets you out of bed in the morning? Before morning has broken, and some time before blackbird has spoken, songbirds rise for sex. And a clever new experiment reveals just how important it is for male songbirds not to sleep in.

5 Things You Should Consider Before Starting An Open Relationship

The Huffington Post | Noah Michelson | Posted 05.28.2015 | Women

From swinging to polyamory, many people are now considering non-mongamous relationships. Recently, the HuffPost Love+Sex Podcast explored ethical n...

5 Reasons Why You Should Read 'I Take You'

Em & Lo | Posted 05.07.2016 | Books
Em & Lo

Have you met Lily Wilder? You should. She's the seriously funny, seriously sex-driven, and seriously flawed protagonist of the novel I Take You by Eliza Kennedy. Here are five reasons why you should pick up a copy right now.

How Do Americans Feel About Open Relationships And Sex Parties? You Might Be Surprised

The Huffington Post | Noah Michelson | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices

HuffPost's Love+Sex podcast recently traveled to Brooklyn to find out what happens at one of the most exclusive sex parties in New York. While ther...

My First Experiment in Non-Monogamy

Kevin Thornton | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Kevin Thornton

My last relationship was a gay, polyamorous, open, interracial threesome. (I know, very 2013.) In a time when gay couples are becoming remarkably mainstream, we were "destroying the sanctity of gay marriage," I would often joke. Some didn't find it funny.

A Glimpse Into The Lives Of Couples With Open Marriages

The Huffington Post | Ashley Reich | Posted 11.26.2014 | Divorce

"Marriage as we know it is dying." So begins chapter one of therapist Susan Pease Gadoua and journalist Vicki Larson's new book The New I Do: Reshapin...

The Conversation All Would-Be Cheaters Should Have

Vicki Larson | Posted 10.21.2014 | Divorce
Vicki Larson

"Honey, I think we are both aware that neither of us is enjoying sex all that much lately. Actually, we haven't enjoyed it for a long time. What do you think about opening up our marriage?"

Who Are 'The Polyamorists Next Door'?

The Huffington Post | Arin Greenwood | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices

Elisabeth Sheff's interest in polyamory isn't strictly academic. Or it wasn't, anyway. "When I was 22 I met a man who wanted to be non-monogamous a...

Are Gay Men Scared of Monogamy?

Mark Brennan Rosenberg | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Mark Brennan Rosenberg

It seems to me that if we want our relationships and marriages to be accepted by our straight counterparts, then maybe it's time to keep a lid on what exactly it is that we do behind closed doors. Maybe it's just no one's business.

Monogamous: To Be or Not to Be?

Irene Monroe | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Irene Monroe

We have to ask ourselves whether monogamy is a natural instinct in us or a social construct devised to protect and regulate the institution of heterosexual marriage.

The Real Culprit Behind Infidelity

Tracy Schorn | Posted 01.23.2014 | Divorce
Tracy Schorn

I'd like to give a shout out for monogamy. It's really been maligned of late, called "unnatural" or worse -- hegemonic and bossy. It gets blamed for infidelity and divorce. Oh the Terrible Societal Pressure of Monogamy!

Why Infidelity Is A Societal Problem

Vicki Larson | Posted 11.17.2013 | Divorce
Vicki Larson

Anyone who has been unfaithful and then gone to couples therapy to "work on the marriage" -- assuming he or she hasn't already been given the boot -- ...

We're Here, We're Queer, We're Monogamish

Matthew Lewis | Posted 08.06.2013 | Queer Voices
Matthew Lewis

There's nothing like my first-date dinner companion telling me he hopes I can someday play with him and his partner together. I don't know what happened to first-date etiquette, but this information might have been useful before wooing me into thinking you're a man I could settle for.

How Do Gays Crack the Monogamy Code?

Tyler Curry | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Tyler Curry

Is it possible for two gay men to be in a long-term relationship and remain monogamous? Of course it is, but for the frustrated but hopeful "monogay," it often seems nearly impossible to find a homo couple who have surpassed the five-year mark without opening up their relationship.

Why Disclose Your Bisexuality When It Hurts A Partner?

A.J. Walkley | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
A.J. Walkley

This question came from a reader who told us that she is "baffled" when she encounters individuals who have been in long-term, monogamous relationships and their partner comes out to them as bisexual down the line.