Just as we set our boundaries, hold our ground, and stand firm against unrealistic expectations in other relationships (needy friends, ex-spouses, PTA), we are capable of doing the same with this holiday.
Have you ever suffered from tension in the shoulders? Do you think others around you should do things differently - be more understanding or forgiving; be a better leader, fairer, wiser, more inspirational?
Our poll found that people in the middle view marriage as an ideal, not a legal construct. To reach folks in the middle, marriage advocates must make clear that gay and lesbian couples are seeking to join in the true spirit of marriage, the way the middle sees it.