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Older Gay Men

My Long Short Road to 50, in Gay Years

David Toussaint | Posted 04.09.2015 | Gay Voices
David Toussaint

If you're fortunate enough to live half a century, you'll understand that it isn't that youth is wasted on the young, it's that youth has no bearing on happiness.

10 Things I Want My Younger Gay Self To Know

Posted 11.18.2014 | Gay Voices

By Rick Clemons for Dear Little Rickey (or any other young gay man just finding his way), I'm about to talk to you. Not in a bad w...

The Dazzling Story of an Older, Gay, Caribbean Dandy

Diriye Osman | Posted 08.30.2014 | Gay Voices
Diriye Osman

By writing directly in the voice of an older, gay Caribbean man, Bernardine Evaristo, who's British-Nigerian and a woman, has executed an extraordinary act of ventriloquism that crosses gender boundaries as well as racial, cultural, sexual and linguistic differences.

18 Things Gay 20-Somethings Need to Know About Gay 40-Somethings and Beyond

David Toussaint | Posted 05.28.2014 | Gay Voices
David Toussaint

If we forget or dismiss you as "too young to understand," slap some sense into us. It's one big beautiful gay world out there, and no matter our ages and age difference, let's share it together.

Sharing Gay HIV/AIDS History Should Be a Source of Hope and Pride

John-Manuel Andriote | Posted 02.08.2014 | Gay Voices
John-Manuel Andriote

Yet there are those who apparently believe they can score points with younger gay men by denigrating their own generation who witnessed and survived the devastation of the dark years of the HIV/AIDS epidemic.

Embracing Life Beyond 50: Begin With 'Yes'

Kergan Edwards-Stout | Posted 09.10.2013 | Gay Voices
Kergan Edwards-Stout

Author, life coach, and nonprofit CEO Paul Boynton recently took the time to share with me more about his thoughts on initiating change, as well as his thoughts on being gay, aging, and other aspects of negotiating life.

Grow Old With Me

Tom Judson | Posted 05.19.2013 | Gay Voices
Tom Judson

Why exactly is telling someone that they look younger than their years considered a compliment? If it's better to look younger, then the implication is that it must be better to be younger. And with that premise I most vigorously disagree.

Aging With Grace In The Gay Community

William Dameron | Posted 03.06.2013 | Gay Voices
William Dameron

This year I will be 50 years old. That's close to 100 in gay years. I'm rocking gray hair these days, and I doubt I will ever see my abdominal muscles again. Here are a few reasons why I'm OK with that.

My Tuesday With Morrie (Or, What We Can Learn From Our Elders)

John-Manuel Andriote | Posted 11.19.2012 | Gay Voices
John-Manuel Andriote

I invited him to join me and two friends I'd invited to dinner Friday night. Morrie was the hit of the party. I'm lucky to have friends who, as I do, revere our elders and soak up the drops of wisdom woven like pearls into the fabric of their stories.

The Other Side Of Forty

Robert Levithan | Posted 06.12.2012 | Gay Voices
Robert Levithan

Presumably, Bergeron's mission in writing The Right Side of Forty was to help spur a healthier outlook on aging for gay men. His disillusionment and suicide send the exact opposite message. However, we must not allow it to reinforce an outdated message of hopelessness regarding aging.

'The New 60': Outliving Yourself And Reinventing A Future

Robert Levithan | Posted 05.27.2012 | Gay Voices
Robert Levithan

Aging in the 21st century is an exciting new frontier. We are redefining its meaning as we live it. Younger men (and women) need to know that we do not have a "shelf life," that passing 40 and 50 and 60 is not the end of our lives.

61, Gay, And Closeted: Is It Too Late For Him?

John Shore | Posted 05.23.2012 | Gay Voices
John Shore

The reason you want to come out is not because of what it will do for your relationship with others. It's because of what coming out will do for your relationship with you. The kind of stress born of living a lie will age you prematurely.

Going Gray And Being Gay

Vince Pellegrino, Ph.D. | Posted 05.22.2012 | Gay Voices
Vince Pellegrino, Ph.D.

In interviews with several gay men over 60, a frequent comment was, "I feel invisible!" But are we truly invisible in the world at large or, specifically, the gay social circle of bars, clubs, and circuit parties?