Meeting her frightened me. Jill is open, honest, trusts her intuitions and is not afraid to display her emotions freely. She was everything I felt I was, but was too afraid to show. She was my anti-stereotype.
Devour a book, become hooked on a TV show or be inspired by a speech and you're enjoying the skill of the storyteller. As to whether you remain reading, keep watching or tune-out, that's all down to how well your storyteller understood the power of paired opposites.
You have probably heard of that book, Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. In my household, it is very likely that my husband and I come from different planets, because we have discovered that our brains are wired very differently.
Growing up with parents who aren't afraid to be themselves around each other has shown me how necessary it is to feel comfortable around your spouse or partner. It's shown me that trust follows honesty, and honesty is only possible if both parties work for it.
Fisher's takeaways shake up some of our belief systems about men. My first stop from the Fisher study was to focus on personality traits to see if I picked the "right partner" in both of my marriages. I loved what I discovered and yes, I did well with both my picks.
I never married the woman who shared my life for 31 years. My attraction to her was magnetic, and although she was nothing like me, we undoubtedly shared the experience of being female. We were two women attracted to each other's differences.
Opposites are complementary. The contradictory things that most folks believe defeat a project, destroy a dream, or invalidate a theory actually work together to make a whole. To put it another way: What contrasts can also complete.