I can't help thinking that they didn't want to go back to the same careers they had before because the reasons they left are still inherent in them. Those careers remain incompatible with a reasonably balanced life.
Will I regret having abandoned my first (and more lucrative) calling as a lawyer once my children are off to college? Will I still feel good about my decision to have a richer family life if the economy takes another plunge and our family's financial outlook grows decidedly poorer?
The advice I would give my daughter is not whether or not she should opt-out and then back in when she has children. It's to marry a partner who will fold clothes with her while watching reruns on a Sunday night with nary a complaint.