The truth is you can endure any feeling. You can make decisions about who elevates your spirits and energy levels and who depletes you. You can hand select and piece together the community that will love and support you. You can create your best possible life and although it will not ever be perfect -- it can be wonderful and even surpass your greatest expectations.
Sometimes we have completely unrealistic expectations of ourselves and the way we idealize that everything should be. If we can just roll with it all, focus our energy on what brings us the most joy, and keep our expectations realistic... accepting what "is," then, we will have the happiest holidays ever.
Forgiving yourself is another way of giving yourself permission to get out of your own way. To see the truth for what it is, rather than hide behind it. If we take self-forgiveness moments, it changes our perspective, and therefore our approach to life. Our mood lifts, and we return to feeling happy and having that inner calm again.