We've all heard the term, "When your heart leads you in a different direction." But for most, the term isn't literal...unless you are Heidi Burns. From the moment she made her debut in this world, Heidi, the Founder of Project Happy Hearts, had to listen to her heart.
I started to think about what we say in the therapy world about meeting clients where they are at. I think that is important for us to do for ourselves too. On that random Thursday I met myself where I was at.
The 18-year old student who enrolls in college in the fall and graduates 45 months later is no longer the norm. There are many paths to a degree, and it is a good thing that the world of higher education is recognizing--and accommodating--individuals that progress at different timetables.
I share this letter because as part of the resiliency building process, I have built a network of support. That support has led me to find peace within and to realize all the good that came from the relationship I built and rebuilt with my mother.
In executive coaching, I have clients hurtling themselves toward a goal. They want to get "there" no matter what. Then there are the adrenaline junkies who enjoy the risk of chaos, taking pride in not needing methods and plans.
What does taking a single step mean to you? Did you walk to work this morning, or simply walk to the car to drive to work? Did you walk to the kitchen to grab coffee or take the dog for a walk around the block?
My happy days don't give me immunity from depression, nor does my very abundant life. Beauty, money, fame, and even hordes of admirers don't keep anyone safe from this mental illness. It can affect anyone, and when it does, we need help.
The thing about growth is that it's not always easy, and making the transition from employment to entrepreneurship provides a unique set of experiences that can stretch and pull you in a variety of ways.
All the perseverance, promotion, and patience required of you, beyond what anyone might have initially considered acceptable, would certainly surprise the average man on the street. But then maybe that's the whole point. To stand out, you have to stand up.
To sum up, whether you live in the United States, Rwanda, Nigeria, or anywhere else, our journey as humans is universal: A large part of our success and happiness rest on the battles we choose to fight. The bravest and smartest among us decide what's worth fighting for.
You have two choices... quit or move forward. Since quitting is not an option, you must push forward. Sure, the uncertainties of life can overwhelm you, but you are equipped for the task! It is important to stand in your reality.
Here's a thought: What if your monsters were not, in fact, monsters at all? What if those obstacles were actually your best friends, your wisest teachers, your greatest allies? And what if instead of hating your obstacles, you learned to love them?
By the time my mom was my age, she was already a widow with two girls. It wasn't until I became a mom myself that I finally discovered the values and heroism of the woman that brought me into this world.
I have friends who have lived through cancer, divorce, and other substantial losses who claim that periods of expansive growth, newfound gratitude, and authentic happiness followed their deepest and darkest times.