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Overcoming Perfectionism

When We Learn From Failure -- And When We Don't

Harvard Business Review | Gretchen Gavett | Posted 05.30.2014 | World

When do you pass the buck and when do you take the blame? New research shows most of us only cop to failures if they can’t be attributed to somethin...

5 Ways To Push Out Perfectionism

LinkedIn | Katty Kay | Posted 05.29.2014 | World

If you want to succeed in life, forget about being perfect. Perfectionism kills confidence and confidence drives success. This is a particular prob...

Confessions of a Recovering Perfectionist

Andrea Wachter | Posted 05.28.2014 | Healthy Living
Andrea Wachter

When we're in perfectionist mode, it certainly does not make our relationships perfect. In fact, it makes them very difficult since our standards are so unrealistic. But when we allow ourselves to be imperfect, others can speak their truth without worrying that we will be crushed or retaliate.

10 Fool-Proof Keys to Creative Flow

Melissa Dinwiddie | Posted 05.19.2014 | Healthy Living
Melissa Dinwiddie

Creative taps never permanently dry up; they just get rusty from disuse. The secret to opening the flow is simply to do something.

I Am Perfect...

Heidi Powell | Posted 06.30.2014 | Women
Heidi Powell

I am Perfect. Perfectly imperfect, that is. I use the word "perfect" a lot, and people often remind me that nothing is perfect. I totally disagree. ...

I Don't Believe In Perfect

Joy Gabriel | Posted 05.18.2014 | Parents
Joy Gabriel

I'm not perfect, but I am a person and I would like to teach them how to be just that: real and open and unafraid of the mess of humanity.

Making Peace With Failure: A Love Story

Paul Dunion, Ed.D., LPC | Posted 04.04.2014 | Healthy Living
Paul Dunion, Ed.D., LPC

Making peace with failure can soften and possibly eliminate the blow of these self-diminishing assaults. When we make peace with failure -- that is, accepting its inevitability -- we make peace with life and with ourselves.

Shelley Gazes: Simply Put: How Releasing Perfection Brought Me Closer to Success

Shelley Gazes | Posted 03.19.2014 | Women
Shelley Gazes

When I was younger, I assumed being tough on myself was the only way to remain on a steady path to "success." But I hadn't paused to define what success really meant to me.

Performance Reviews And Keeping Your Self Worth

Sarina Tomel | Posted 02.25.2014 | Healthy Living
Sarina Tomel

Self-limiting beliefs have a way of coming up everywhere, even in the workplace; however, they don't have to get the best of us.

14 Signs Your Perfectionism Has Gotten Out Of Control

The Huffington Post | Carolyn Gregoire | Posted 11.25.2013 | Healthy Living

If you've ever cried about getting a B+ or ending up in second place, there's a good chance you're a perfectionist. As a culture, we tend to rewar...

Why Our Definition Of Success Needs A Serious Face Lift

Juliet Turalski | Posted 10.04.2013 | Healthy Living
Juliet Turalski

When you feel your freedom now and choose to express yourself to your authentic bone, you have truly mastered success.

WATCH: Are You Authentic -- Or Unknowingly Fake?

OWN | Posted 06.29.2013 | OWN

For more than a decade, Dr. Brené Brown has studied vulnerability, worthiness, shame and courage as a professor at the University of Houston's Gradua...

Confessions Of A Recovering Perfectionist

Dawn Gluskin | Posted 08.07.2013 | Healthy Living
Dawn Gluskin

Perfectionism is a way of closing off and controlling things. It may look pretty on the outside but in reality it's cold, isolated and dark. It's the cracks that let the light in, anyway. So, go on and ease up a bit. Let some light in and shine on!

Are You A Perfectionist? Relax -- Here's How To Give Yourself A Break

Posted 06.02.2013 | Healthy Living

By Danielle Hark for YouBeauty Perfection is impossible by sheer definition. Yet we strive for it and berate ourselves when we fall short. It's oka...

Confessions of My Imperfections as a Health Coach

Robin Hoffman | Posted 07.30.2013 | Healthy Living
Robin Hoffman

Am I perfect? Not in any way. Do I like to be healthy? Yes. But am I also human and make choices that aren't always wise or the healthiest thing? Absolutely. And maybe, for me, it's time to start sharing more of myself.

Is This Getting In The Way Of Your Success?

Bob Sullivan | Posted 07.08.2013 | Healthy Living
Bob Sullivan

Do you dwell on small mistakes for hours, days, or even weeks after they occur? Are you crushed when someone points out a small flaw in your work? Have you ever spent four hours fine-tuning a task that could have been completed in 10 minutes?

How To Conquer Perfectionism

Michael S. Broder, Ph.D. | Posted 06.12.2013 | Healthy Living
Michael S. Broder, Ph.D.

Do you find that setting standards too high by trying to do things too perfectly is a source of stress for you? While doing your best is certainly a virtue, perfectionism -- that is, settling for nothing less than perfect -- has a major down side.

Fighting Perfectionism Fearlessly

Jonathan Alpert | Posted 05.19.2013 | Healthy Living
Jonathan Alpert

Many of my patients are highly educated, leaders in their industries, and among the best and the brightest. They're also perfectionists, and this can be a real problem for them as it can lead to feelings of anxiety and depression, and often wreaks havoc on relationships.

Are You a Perfectionist?

Nancy Deville | Posted 02.03.2013 | Healthy Living
Nancy Deville

If you're fed up with feeling crazed, you might want to consider admitting how exhausting, depleting, and defeating your quest for perfection is, and that no matter how perfect you become, you will never satisfy your own critical voice. Perfectionists often set self-defeating goals.

'Tis the Season to Be... Perfect?!

Dr. Elizabeth Lombardo | Posted 01.27.2013 | Healthy Living
Dr. Elizabeth Lombardo

Despite the fact that we may tell ourselves, "The holidays are a time to appreciate what we have and enjoy the people in our lives," many are actually focusing on something else: being "perfect."

A Flawed Life: How It Just Might Make You Happier

Christy Matta, M.A. | Posted 10.31.2012 | Healthy Living
Christy Matta, M.A.

Unfortunately, the pursuit of perfection doesn't make us happier or ease stress. A perfect body doesn't solve your emotional problems, a shiny new car doesn't mean you're any more likely to be taken seriously at work and a meticulously kept house can't keep you from financial issues.

8 Strategies For Making A Better Life

Tamar Chansky | Posted 08.02.2012 | Healthy Living
Tamar Chansky

The opposite of perfection isn't imperfection or mediocrity; it's reality. It's possibility. It's all the magnificent points that exist all around the bull's eye.

Good Enough Really Is Good Enough: 7 Steps To Overcome Perfectionism

Robert Leahy, Ph.D. | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Robert Leahy, Ph.D.

You don't have to give up on healthy high standards or trying to improve yourself. There is such a thing called "adaptive perfectionism." Here's what it looks like.