It's OK to admit defeat with your finances. And you are brave to ask for help. Do what's right for you, find a trusted support team, and start taking the little steps that move you forward. You deserve to have financial peace, and with a little diligence and a lot of push through, you can achieve it.
Bottom line: It's called the holiday season, not the spending season. If you enjoy traditional gift-giving, shape your finances throughout the year to make it happen. If you are facing financial problems or simply want to make a change in old spending routines, share that information with loved ones.