Children derive security from parental love, support and protection. Even after divorce, if the children feel both parents are still there for them -- participating in their lives and providing love and guidance -- they can thrive.
Parental gatekeeping is not an everyday word intact or separated families use but it has a very real impact and import on child custody cases. Are laws against reckless or malicious, restrictive gatekeeping overdue or is this a solution looking for a problem?
I chose, after a long, deliberate and painstaking process, to give my ex-husband essentially full custody of one of my children. It was the most wrenching decision of my life, but one that I felt I had to make.
Going off to college clearly stirred renewed affection and appreciation for parents. I have never seen or heard this phenomenon discussed in print or at professional conferences. But it was very real to those of us in Founders Hall, Ithaca, back in 1966.