Divorce. Not fun. Messy. Kids in the middle. It doesn't have to be this way. I had a "nice" divorce. This doesn't mean it didn't suck or there wasn't pain or hurt. It just means we didn't have to destroy each other or the children in the process.
It's important for all divorced parents to reflect on their relationship with their former spouse and how it may be subtly or overtly affecting the emotional and psychological well-being of their children.
When it comes to custodial disputes, sometimes you have to resist your knee-jerk reactions and realize the best action can be no action at all. Let your Ex spin his/her wheels, because inevitably, they will crash.
Children derive security from parental love, support and protection. Even after divorce, if the children feel both parents are still there for them -- participating in their lives and providing love and guidance -- they can thrive.
Parental gatekeeping is not an everyday word intact or separated families use but it has a very real impact and import on child custody cases. Are laws against reckless or malicious, restrictive gatekeeping overdue or is this a solution looking for a problem?
I chose, after a long, deliberate and painstaking process, to give my ex-husband essentially full custody of one of my children. It was the most wrenching decision of my life, but one that I felt I had to make.
Going off to college clearly stirred renewed affection and appreciation for parents. I have never seen or heard this phenomenon discussed in print or at professional conferences. But it was very real to those of us in Founders Hall, Ithaca, back in 1966.