The goal in enlisting mental health professionals in your divorce is to help you move forward. Remember, there is no shame in asking for help, especially if it will get you to a better place emotionally and spiritually.
I believe it's safe to say that most parents want what's best for their child. Recognize that you each have different priorities. Try to be respectful of those priorities and allow each other the ability to co-parent to the best of his/her abilities without instructions or demands from the other.