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Parenting Gay Children

Liberal, Well-Meaning Mom Blows It When Her Son Comes Out -- But Then She Feels Blessed

Susan Oren | Posted 10.27.2014 | Gay Voices
Susan Oren

Here was the ultimate mom test. Was I the real deal? At this crucial moment, probably the most important one of my life, my mind had shut down, and I'd lost my voice. I'd expected to perform much better. This had been a D-minus at best.

The Second Halloween My Boy Wanted to Be a Girl

Julie Tarney | Posted 10.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Julie Tarney

You'd think that by the time my son Harry turned 4 years old in 1994, I would have learned how to handle Halloween. A guilt ghoul swallowed me whole the first time my boy wanted to go trick-or-treating dressed as a girl. But, no, some lessons don't come easy.

Anti-Gay Bullying at School, but Not Like We Expected

Amelia | Posted 09.20.2014 | Gay Voices
Amelia

My oldest son is now in the fourth grade, and he's never had an incident of anti-gay bullying at school. And that may have lulled me into a false sense of security, because I was caught totally off guard when it happened to his little brother.

Not Ready to Love a Gay Child? Then Don't Have Kids

Amelia | Posted 09.08.2014 | Gay Voices
Amelia

If you are thinking about creating a family with someone, stop and think. Ask yourself, "Will this person love the children we create?" If the answer is "Maybe not," then perhaps it is time to take a big step back and do some real thinking.

Your Toddler Might Be Gay

Dana Sitar | Posted 08.10.2014 | Gay Voices
Dana Sitar

If we keep talking to that little girl for the next 10 years as if it's her destiny to fall in love with a man, how will she react to herself and others if she finds herself attracted to the girls around her, not the boys? Or to both?

I Know My 9-Year-Old Son's 'Type': Pretty Boys With Dark Hair

Dave | Posted 08.09.2014 | Gay Voices
Dave

Here was my boy acting on his feelings, giving a gift to another boy he thought was attractive. But as much as I thought it was adorable, I also dread moments like these, because as the father of a gay child, the only thing that really worries me is other people's potential reactions to him.

Two Men Kissing in Front of My Kid? Awesome!

Amelia | Posted 07.26.2014 | Gay Voices
Amelia

My son needs to see kisses like this one, kisses of celebration between two men in love. There are too few of them in front of his eyes, and he needs to be able to see more. He needs to be able to see that his future will one day include kisses between him and a boy he likes, and one day a boy he loves.

When (Gay) Boy Meets (Gay) Girl for the First Time

Amelia | Posted 07.12.2014 | Gay Voices
Amelia

Never once did our kids talk about their orientation. It was like they didn't need to discuss it. They both knew that the kid on the other side of the computer screen was gay, and that knowledge was enough.

Nobody Gets to Tell My Sons What It Means to Be a Man

Amelia | Posted 07.09.2014 | Gay Voices
Amelia

I think my husband is doing a great job of teaching them what it means to be a man. My sons learn from him that men are strong, smart, silly and creative. But what am I teaching our sons about what it means to be a woman? My sons learn from me that women are strong, smart, silly and creative.

Let's Talk About the Birds and... Um... the Birds?

Amelia | Posted 05.24.2014 | Gay Voices
Amelia

My little boy will soon start becoming a little man, and as a gay-identified kid, what kind of sexual knowledge will he need? How will "the sex talk" be different for him? I don't have real answers to these questions, but I am trying to figure it out.

Equality Should Shine Through Generations

Amelia | Posted 05.14.2014 | Gay Voices
Amelia

I have never spent a lot of time thinking about my uncle's orientation, even after my own son told me he is gay. It was only when people started asking me why I am so OK with my son's orientation that it occurred to me: I was raised this way. It's probably thanks to my grandmother.

My Gay Kid Is Lucky.. But He Shouldn't Have to Be

Amelia | Posted 03.20.2014 | Gay Voices
Amelia

If anyone is looking for the wrong thing to say to the parent of a gay child, that's it, right there.

Stop Waiting for My Gay Son to Change

Amelia | Posted 01.25.2014 | Gay Voices
Amelia

Part of me gets it. Kids go through phases when it comes to what they like. But the Darren Criss thing? That one hasn't gone anywhere. And I get how unusual it is to see such a young child identifying as gay. But another part of me gets really tired of having this conversation.

Boys and Girls and Their Prince Charmings

Amelia | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Amelia

My son's romantic feelings toward a gay male character raise eyebrows. People worry about it being too adult and wonder what my son could possibly know about sex. But these are never things we worry about when little girls want to be Cinderella and profess their love for Prince Charming.

While Your Child Is Still Alive: A Letter to Parents Who Aren't Ready to March in the Pride Parade

Linda Robertson | Posted 10.18.2013 | Gay Voices
Linda Robertson

While your child is still alive, don't worry about what your friends will think. Twenty years from now, your friends' opinions won't keep you up at night. But your remorse about not loving your child while you still had the chance will. Trust me on this.

So I've Come Out to My Christian Parents... Now What? Part 2: Things to Remember About Yourself as an Adult Child

Linda Robertson | Posted 09.25.2013 | Gay Voices
Linda Robertson

I want to remind you of some things that you are probably going to have to remind yourself of many times as you work through this with your parents, especially if they aren't proving to be as accepting and affirming as you had wished, and even more so if they are downright cruel.

So I've Come Out to My Christian Parents... Now What? Part 1: Things to Remember About Parents

Linda Robertson | Posted 09.23.2013 | Gay Voices
Linda Robertson

In the past month, we have started a small network of Christian parents who love Jesus and who also love their LGBTQ child. Right now, the parents are literally and figuratively all over the map -- where they live and where they are in their process of learning to fully love and relate to their child.

Everyone Has a Story...

Linda Robertson | Posted 09.15.2013 | Gay Voices
Linda Robertson

When our four kids were growing up, I often reminded them that everyone has a story. I would tell them that no matter how grumpy, annoying or unkempt someone may be, there is always a story behind it. I reminded them to give people the benefit of the doubt.

10 Ways to Support Your Gay Kid, Whether You Know You Have One or Not

Amelia | Posted 09.05.2013 | Gay Voices
Amelia

Here are some helpful hints for supporting your gay child before they ever come out to you. After all, parenting gay kids does not start when they come out. They've been gay since day one, whether you knew it or not.

The Life Lessons A Straight Father Taught His Gay Son

Posted 06.16.2013 | Gay Voices

By Rick Clemons for YourTango.com At 19, I came out of the closet to my parents. It was a shock, but not a surprise. At the time, I wasn't quite r...

When My Son Met His 'Boyfriend,' Darren Criss (PHOTO)

Amelia | Posted 08.12.2013 | Gay Voices
Amelia

What could I say to this young man who meant so much to my kid, this young man who, by playing a television character, had helped lead my son to tell me about his orientation and, by extension, helped change the trajectory of my own life toward activism?

What I'd Say To A Parent With A Gay Child, From Jane Lynch (WATCH)

Posted 08.13.2013 | MarloThomas

Jane Lynch gave advice to parents with gay children when she joined me on Mondays With Marlo this week. It can be so difficult to come out to your fam...

Don't Be Your Child's First Bully

Amelia | Posted 07.08.2013 | Gay Voices
Amelia

By hiding photos of a son dressed up as Minnie Mouse or Scooby-Doo's Daphne, a parent is sending the message that she is ashamed of her child. That's a message that gets received, quickly and with dire consequences.

Coming Out As Amelia

Amelia | Posted 06.27.2013 | Gay Voices
Amelia

Complete anonymity is getting in the way of what my blog posts are all about: reaching out to people and being damn proud of my kid. I'd like the opportunity to speak to more parents about celebrating our LGBT kids and meet more of our fabulous LGBT youth. So I've arrived at a compromise.

Accept And Tolerate My Gay Kid? That's Not Good Enough

Amelia | Posted 06.07.2013 | Gay Voices
Amelia

With politicians there is a lot talk of "acceptance" and "tolerance" when it comes to homosexuality. I accept the fact that I have to pay taxes. I tolerate the fact that I have to go to the dentist. Why should either of those words apply to how a parent feels about their child?