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Parenting Gay Children

Let's Talk About the Birds and... Um... the Birds?

Amelia | Posted 03.24.2014 | Gay Voices
Amelia

My little boy will soon start becoming a little man, and as a gay-identified kid, what kind of sexual knowledge will he need? How will "the sex talk" be different for him? I don't have real answers to these questions, but I am trying to figure it out.

Equality Should Shine Through Generations

Amelia | Posted 03.14.2014 | Gay Voices
Amelia

I have never spent a lot of time thinking about my uncle's orientation, even after my own son told me he is gay. It was only when people started asking me why I am so OK with my son's orientation that it occurred to me: I was raised this way. It's probably thanks to my grandmother.

My Gay Kid Is Lucky.. But He Shouldn't Have to Be

Amelia | Posted 03.20.2014 | Gay Voices
Amelia

If anyone is looking for the wrong thing to say to the parent of a gay child, that's it, right there.

Stop Waiting for My Gay Son to Change

Amelia | Posted 01.25.2014 | Gay Voices
Amelia

Part of me gets it. Kids go through phases when it comes to what they like. But the Darren Criss thing? That one hasn't gone anywhere. And I get how unusual it is to see such a young child identifying as gay. But another part of me gets really tired of having this conversation.

Boys and Girls and Their Prince Charmings

Amelia | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Amelia

My son's romantic feelings toward a gay male character raise eyebrows. People worry about it being too adult and wonder what my son could possibly know about sex. But these are never things we worry about when little girls want to be Cinderella and profess their love for Prince Charming.

While Your Child Is Still Alive: A Letter to Parents Who Aren't Ready to March in the Pride Parade

Linda Robertson | Posted 10.18.2013 | Gay Voices
Linda Robertson

While your child is still alive, don't worry about what your friends will think. Twenty years from now, your friends' opinions won't keep you up at night. But your remorse about not loving your child while you still had the chance will. Trust me on this.

So I've Come Out to My Christian Parents... Now What? Part 2: Things to Remember About Yourself as an Adult Child

Linda Robertson | Posted 09.25.2013 | Gay Voices
Linda Robertson

I want to remind you of some things that you are probably going to have to remind yourself of many times as you work through this with your parents, especially if they aren't proving to be as accepting and affirming as you had wished, and even more so if they are downright cruel.

So I've Come Out to My Christian Parents... Now What? Part 1: Things to Remember About Parents

Linda Robertson | Posted 09.23.2013 | Gay Voices
Linda Robertson

In the past month, we have started a small network of Christian parents who love Jesus and who also love their LGBTQ child. Right now, the parents are literally and figuratively all over the map -- where they live and where they are in their process of learning to fully love and relate to their child.

Everyone Has a Story...

Linda Robertson | Posted 09.15.2013 | Gay Voices
Linda Robertson

When our four kids were growing up, I often reminded them that everyone has a story. I would tell them that no matter how grumpy, annoying or unkempt someone may be, there is always a story behind it. I reminded them to give people the benefit of the doubt.

10 Ways to Support Your Gay Kid, Whether You Know You Have One or Not

Amelia | Posted 09.05.2013 | Gay Voices
Amelia

Here are some helpful hints for supporting your gay child before they ever come out to you. After all, parenting gay kids does not start when they come out. They've been gay since day one, whether you knew it or not.

The Life Lessons A Straight Father Taught His Gay Son

Posted 06.16.2013 | Gay Voices

By Rick Clemons for YourTango.com At 19, I came out of the closet to my parents. It was a shock, but not a surprise. At the time, I wasn't quite r...

When My Son Met His 'Boyfriend,' Darren Criss (PHOTO)

Amelia | Posted 08.12.2013 | Gay Voices
Amelia

What could I say to this young man who meant so much to my kid, this young man who, by playing a television character, had helped lead my son to tell me about his orientation and, by extension, helped change the trajectory of my own life toward activism?

What I'd Say To A Parent With A Gay Child, From Jane Lynch (WATCH)

Posted 08.13.2013 | MarloThomas

Jane Lynch gave advice to parents with gay children when she joined me on Mondays With Marlo this week. It can be so difficult to come out to your fam...

Don't Be Your Child's First Bully

Amelia | Posted 07.08.2013 | Gay Voices
Amelia

By hiding photos of a son dressed up as Minnie Mouse or Scooby-Doo's Daphne, a parent is sending the message that she is ashamed of her child. That's a message that gets received, quickly and with dire consequences.

Coming Out As Amelia

Amelia | Posted 06.27.2013 | Gay Voices
Amelia

Complete anonymity is getting in the way of what my blog posts are all about: reaching out to people and being damn proud of my kid. I'd like the opportunity to speak to more parents about celebrating our LGBT kids and meet more of our fabulous LGBT youth. So I've arrived at a compromise.

Accept And Tolerate My Gay Kid? That's Not Good Enough

Amelia | Posted 06.07.2013 | Gay Voices
Amelia

With politicians there is a lot talk of "acceptance" and "tolerance" when it comes to homosexuality. I accept the fact that I have to pay taxes. I tolerate the fact that I have to go to the dentist. Why should either of those words apply to how a parent feels about their child?

Who Gives The Sex Talk To A Gay Child?

Queerty | RAISING MY RAINBOW | Posted 03.10.2013 | Gay Voices

I was in fifth grade. I boarded the school bus and a sixth grade girl asked me if I was virgin. “No,” I said giving her a dirty look and findi...

When My 8-Year-Old Gay Son Taught His Class About Harvey Milk

Amelia | Posted 05.05.2013 | Gay Voices
Amelia

On this day in a second-grade classroom in the Midwest, Harvey Milk was on the same stage as Frederick Douglass, Sojourner Truth and Elizabeth Cady Stanton as an 8-year-old gay boy who has never seen the need for a closet told Milk's story.

To Move Or Not To Move?

Amelia | Posted 04.21.2013 | Gay Voices
Amelia

As our children grow, we look around and wonder, "Is this the right place for us to be? Is this where we want our children to grow up? What is the environment we've chosen teaching them?" These questions were heightened after our oldest son started identifying as gay at a young age.

If My Gay Son Realizes He's Really My Straight Son, So What?

Amelia | Posted 04.08.2013 | Gay Voices
Amelia

If our son realizes at a later date that he isn't gay, I won't be embarrassed. No matter who he is, we want him to know that we love him. And whom he loves and is attracted to doesn't change a thing. If anything, we are setting an example to all our kids that our love really is unconditional.

A New Coming-Out Story

Amelia | Posted 03.26.2013 | Gay Voices
Amelia

My son never lived in the proverbial closet. He's never thought of himself any other way or pretended that he did. So what do I think he was coming out of? His narrative is so different from the ones that came before that I don't even have the terminology to talk about it appropriately.

Raising A Gay Son Is The Same As Raising A Straight Son, Except When It's Not

Amelia | Posted 03.11.2013 | Gay Voices
Amelia

Yes, at times it is different. At times it is hard, emotional and challenging. It's not something people are used to seeing, which can make them uncomfortable, so it requires extra work of me as a parent. But that doesn't mean it's bad. And he's worth it. All my kids are.

Some Parents Might Not Want A Gay Kid, But I Do

Amelia | Posted 02.18.2013 | Gay Voices
Amelia

On Dec. 10 a conservative politician in the UK commented, "I think most parents would prefer their children not to be gay." As the mom of an openly gay son, that comment pisses me off, but it doesn't surprise me. It's something I have heard many times before.

When Your Favorite Childhood Films Are A Little More Homophobic Than You Remembered

Amelia | Posted 02.12.2013 | Gay Voices
Amelia

As a parent, one of the great joys is exposing my kids to all the stuff I liked when I was little. We have a built-in excuse to buy things like The Goonies or The NeverEnding Story. But a few times that we've gone back to our childhood favorites, we've had a harsh wake-up call.

Being Thankful And Honoring Those Who Made Today Possible

Amelia | Posted 01.21.2013 | Gay Voices
Amelia

Hundreds and thousands of people have fought for equal rights, and I am thankful to them all. Their hard work, sacrifice and struggle brought us here, to a place where my little boy can know who he is and tell me without shame -- and be unaware that shame could even be a factor.