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Parenting Gay Sons

I Know My 9-Year-Old Son's 'Type': Pretty Boys With Dark Hair

Dave | Posted 08.09.2014 | Gay Voices
Dave

Here was my boy acting on his feelings, giving a gift to another boy he thought was attractive. But as much as I thought it was adorable, I also dread moments like these, because as the father of a gay child, the only thing that really worries me is other people's potential reactions to him.

Nobody Gets to Tell My Sons What It Means to Be a Man

Amelia | Posted 07.09.2014 | Gay Voices
Amelia

I think my husband is doing a great job of teaching them what it means to be a man. My sons learn from him that men are strong, smart, silly and creative. But what am I teaching our sons about what it means to be a woman? My sons learn from me that women are strong, smart, silly and creative.

Let's Talk About the Birds and... Um... the Birds?

Amelia | Posted 05.24.2014 | Gay Voices
Amelia

My little boy will soon start becoming a little man, and as a gay-identified kid, what kind of sexual knowledge will he need? How will "the sex talk" be different for him? I don't have real answers to these questions, but I am trying to figure it out.

Stop Waiting for My Gay Son to Change

Amelia | Posted 01.25.2014 | Gay Voices
Amelia

Part of me gets it. Kids go through phases when it comes to what they like. But the Darren Criss thing? That one hasn't gone anywhere. And I get how unusual it is to see such a young child identifying as gay. But another part of me gets really tired of having this conversation.

The Life Lessons A Straight Father Taught His Gay Son

Posted 06.16.2013 | Gay Voices

By Rick Clemons for YourTango.com At 19, I came out of the closet to my parents. It was a shock, but not a surprise. At the time, I wasn't quite r...

To Move Or Not To Move?

Amelia | Posted 04.21.2013 | Gay Voices
Amelia

As our children grow, we look around and wonder, "Is this the right place for us to be? Is this where we want our children to grow up? What is the environment we've chosen teaching them?" These questions were heightened after our oldest son started identifying as gay at a young age.

If My Gay Son Realizes He's Really My Straight Son, So What?

Amelia | Posted 04.08.2013 | Gay Voices
Amelia

If our son realizes at a later date that he isn't gay, I won't be embarrassed. No matter who he is, we want him to know that we love him. And whom he loves and is attracted to doesn't change a thing. If anything, we are setting an example to all our kids that our love really is unconditional.

A New Coming-Out Story

Amelia | Posted 03.26.2013 | Gay Voices
Amelia

My son never lived in the proverbial closet. He's never thought of himself any other way or pretended that he did. So what do I think he was coming out of? His narrative is so different from the ones that came before that I don't even have the terminology to talk about it appropriately.

Raising A Gay Son Is The Same As Raising A Straight Son, Except When It's Not

Amelia | Posted 03.11.2013 | Gay Voices
Amelia

Yes, at times it is different. At times it is hard, emotional and challenging. It's not something people are used to seeing, which can make them uncomfortable, so it requires extra work of me as a parent. But that doesn't mean it's bad. And he's worth it. All my kids are.

A Father's Reaction To His Very Young Gay Son

Dave | Posted 05.29.2012 | Gay Voices
Dave

Over the past few months my wife has been asked numerous times what I think about our 7-year-old son identifying as gay. The idea that I would be disappointed/angry/suicidal that my son identifies as gay offends me, both as a father and simply as a human.

Lessons Parents Should Learn From Kirk Cameron's Anti-Gay Comments

Melanie Gorman | Posted 05.06.2012 | Parents
Melanie Gorman

In a world where it is challenging for most people to create a healthy, sustainable relationship, the last thing a child needs is the judgment and shame from their parents if they realize they are gay.

A Devout Christian Expresses Unwavering Love For Her Gay Son

Patrick Wallace | Posted 05.02.2012 | Gay Voices
Patrick Wallace

This week on aNoteToMyKid.com, a devout Christian mother named Shelley from Iowa City, Iowa expressed her personal journey toward accepting her gay son, Michael, while maintaining the religious faith she holds so dear to her heart.

A Christmas Letter to My Gay Son

Randi Reitan | Posted 02.22.2012 | Gay Voices
Randi Reitan

There is only one gift I want to give you this year: I want to give you equality. I want to wrap it up in a beautiful box, and I want to put it under our tree right now. I want to see you open it on Christmas Eve and with great joy live with it all your days.

I Get to Define My Own Family

Amelia | Posted 08.03.2013 | Gay Voices
Amelia

Many of those people are LGBT, but they aren't our chosen family because they are LGBT or in spite of it; they are our chosen family because they are good people, the kind of men and women who set good examples for our kids, the kind of people we want them to grow up to be.