Sorry parents, there is no quick fix for this -- it takes time and LOTS of repetition to teach a child (and adult) how to "catch his or her bites/ throws/ kicks/ yells." Let's talk specifically about biting since it was Luis Suarez's reaction when he had had enough.
The most important thing to remember is that we have a choice. We can actively choose to be friendly instead of harsh. The trick is to have a strategy in place. I call this a calm-down plan, which helps when you don't feel friendly.
There are several factors involved in a child's willingness to cooperate. A child not doing what she is told is less about "not listening" and more about how able she feels to do what you want her to do.
Fear can be a useful tool. It can keep us out of danger and guide us in considering different options but when it paralyzes us and makes us question everything we do it's time to take a closer look at what we're afraid of and how we can remedy it.
Loving parenting means that you do not become rigid in your parenting, believing that you have found the right way to parent. It means that you stay tuned into each child, tuned into your own inner guidance with each child and with each situation.
It started off as casual and friendly banter but moved quickly into an exchange of fairly different opinions and principles of parenting. The ensuing conversation revealed stark differences in how parents view their responsibilities when preparing their children for college life and beyond.
In truth, all parents need support. That's why the ancient adage, "It takes a village to raise a child," has stuck over the years. Far from indicating failure, asking for help is actually a sign of courage and strength.
This child didn't need to be given reason; he needed parameters. One could even argue that he needed a firm hand. Sometimes, children push so hard because they need to know their limits and, on some level, want those limits enforced.
Some might say I could have waited until we were wheeled out of the operating room, but I began the conversation early. "Listen, there will be male people in the nursery," I warned, the moment her beanie-clad head hit my bosom. "Do not worry."