The holidays mean different things to different people. For some, it's the best time of year, packed with shopping, eating and good times. For others, it's a stressful period full of family drama and agita. Most people experience some mix of both.
If you want to develop a parenting plan that meets the unique needs of your kids and family, then you need to be in control. Choose a divorce process and work with professionals that allow you -- not the courts -- to make the decisions.
I'm going to say it over and over and over again until my last breath -- "Mediation" that is handled as a "settlement conference," but with a "mediator" rather than a judicial officer is not mediation.
The goal in enlisting mental health professionals in your divorce is to help you move forward. Remember, there is no shame in asking for help, especially if it will get you to a better place emotionally and spiritually.
Holiday preparations are in full swing. The shopping malls are packed like a can of sardines and if you're like me, you're probably a little overwhelmed and stressed about getting the perfect gift for your loved ones.
Would the comfy lounge chairs and soothing smell of lattes create the kind of inviting atmosphere, where people going through the most challenges conflicts of their lives, could open up and discuss their divorce?
Most who have been through a divorce will tell you that it is a marathon, not a sprint. In order to get to the finish line without collapsing, it is helpful to have a coach guide you from beginning to end.
Each parent is responsible to keep their own emotional upset out of the kids' lives. It's fine to let them know or see that you are working through some stuff, but your promise has to be to not work it out in their presence. Get help for yourself outside the walls of your house.
In the heat of your divorce, have you thought about possibly moving your children to another city, state or even country? Whatever your reason, there are important things to consider before you make a decision to move away with your children.
In my state, as a man, if you want something other than the SPO and non-custodial parent role, you're going to have to fight. You're going to have to disagree with your expensive 'parenting planning' and PH.D family therapist.
Parents most often live in different towns, perhaps different states, perhaps different regions of this country. But, unlike most of the year with cookie cutter visitation arrangements, the summer means even more scheduling, more agendas.
It's five days after the split, and I am waiting to meet with my attorney--the Divorce King of Seattle, from what I can tell--to discuss the parenting plan, child support, and how the bounty of my marriage is to be divided.