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Parenting Without Power Struggles

The Work On Parenting

Susan Stiffelman | Posted 05.11.2016 | Parents
Susan Stiffelman

Most of us love our children dearly, but they can trigger our upset like no one else can! Feeling disrespected or unappreciated, we may shout, scold or threaten our kids, despite desperately wishing we could keep our cool.

My 4-Year-Old Can't Calm Down!

Susan Stiffelman | Posted 06.28.2015 | Parents
Susan Stiffelman

My 4 1/2-year-old son is a sweet boy, but he seems to lose his ability to listen or calm down whenever he is deep in play with his friends.

Daughter Tiptoes Around Aggressive Brother

Susan Stiffelman | Posted 03.09.2015 | Parents
Susan Stiffelman

Siblings have an enormous impact on one another's lives. While some rivalry is normal and to be expected, when a child's anger or control becomes something to be feared, it's time to take action.

My Cousin Calls Her Daughter 'Dummy' and 'Stupid'!

Susan Stiffelman | Posted 02.14.2015 | Parents
Susan Stiffelman

It is terribly awkward to deal with a child's upsetting behavior without stepping on the toes of her parent. Your situation is even more challenging because you wisely understand that this little one is both mimicking her mother and acting out her hurt. Here are my thoughts.

Am I Overindulging My Children?

Susan Stiffelman | Posted 02.09.2015 | Parents
Susan Stiffelman

It isn't easy to deprive kids of the things that make them happy when our instinct is to do whatever we can to keep them smiling. Here are my thoughts.

Trouble Parenting My Stepson

Susan Stiffelman | Posted 02.01.2015 | Parents
Susan Stiffelman

Your family is going through significant growing pains, with everyone having to make some big adjustments. Rather than giving you suggestions for controlling your stepson's behavior, I think it best that we step back and look at the situation from a bigger perspective.

My Son is Losing Friends Because He's a Know-It-All!

Susan Stiffelman | Posted 08.11.2013 | Parents
Susan Stiffelman

Quite often, a child who tries to one-up others has learned the behavior from someone he or she looks up to.

My 13-Year-Old and I Are Both in Hormone Hell!

Susan Stiffelman | Posted 06.30.2013 | Parents
Susan Stiffelman

Your daughter's moods will even out, your hormones will stabilize and you will get through this rough patch.

Sad Dad Left Out of 12-Year-Old Daughter's Life

Susan Stiffelman | Posted 12.23.2012 | Parents
Susan Stiffelman

"Daddy, I'm breaking up with you."

My Daughter Is a Perfectionist!

Susan Stiffelman | Posted 12.17.2012 | Parents
Susan Stiffelman

Many children struggle with perfectionism, whether they are adopted or raised by their biological parents.

5 Ways To Deal With Kids' Anxiety

The Huffington Post | Susan Stiffelman | Posted 09.08.2012 | Parents

Dear Susan, My fourth grader is experiencing anxiety now that school has started. Not necessarily about school, but about everything else: What if ...

5 Easy Ways To Help Your Kids Be Happy

Susan Stiffelman | Posted 10.29.2012 | Parents
Susan Stiffelman

If you weave gratitude and appreciation into your family's day-to-day life, happiness will occur naturally.

7 Ways To Help Your Child Adjust To A New Baby

The Huffington Post | Susan Stiffelman | Posted 08.28.2012 | Parents

Dear Susan, My husband and I just had a baby boy, and our 4-year-old daughter is not adjusting well. She was happy that she was finally going to ha...

8 Steps To Help Your Teen Unplug

The Huffington Post | Susan Stiffelman | Posted 08.23.2012 | Parents

Dear Susan, My 14-year-old daughter used to be very social. She was always going to her friends' houses or having them over. But now she is very la...

'My Kids' Grandparents Won't Enforce My Rules'

The Huffington Post | Susan Stiffelman | Posted 08.16.2012 | Parents

Dear Susan, I have a lot of trouble getting my parents to enforce my rules about bedtime, appropriate snack foods, etc. when my children spend the ...

HuffPost Parents' Parent Coach On Avoiding Power Struggles

Posted 03.14.2012 | Parents

HuffPost Parents' Parent Coach, Susan Stiffelman appeared on the "Today" show this morning with Kathy Lee and Hoda! She shared smart strategies from h...