Complaining is asking for change. When my wife complains, she wants me to present her with an alternative. Venting is getting it off your chest. This is where she just wants me to listen to her frustrations.
When our children are repeatedly targeted or discriminated against, those initial feelings of self-doubt, shame and rejection can also resurface later. At what point do we caution our kids that their own dreams and achievements may be eclipsed by racism, bigotry and injustice?
Don't get me wrong, I have no problem with kids being challenged a bit, but this goes beyond challenging our kids. Let's face it, most (kids and parents included) would honestly tell you that math is too hard for them, boring or just not their thing.
"It's as personal as it can get. There are good days and bad ones, but it's a very personal fight worth staying in the long run for. He's my grandson...
When I was 35 I sent a copy of my third novel to my father. He emailed two days later saying he was eager to talk to me about it. I called him immediately. "Well, I think it's the best thing you've ever written," he said. "And I think you'll never be a success as a literary writer."
I looked just in time to see my youngest daughter reach over and whack her older sister in the chest. "What are you doing?!" My anger boiled up quickly. How could she do such a thing? She doesn't see any hitting in this house. Yikes.
With a house full of girls, we wondered what life would be like for our son, who would he be? How would that nature or nurture theory really work? It didn't matter to us if he chose princesses or cars, his happiness was truly all that mattered.
So the Common Core process doesn't make a lot of sense to us parents. We can't see the connection between the tests and how they make anything better in our kids' schools. So what? Schools have our kids for about thirteen years. We have them for a lifetime!
There is a class of men that exist in society. They may look like normal men, they may act like normal men; in certain aspects they may actually be pretty normal. However, if you dig a little deeper, you'll find that these men live under very peculiar circumstances at home with their families.
I feel like you should think about all surrounding circumstances of a child's behavior or actions before you decide on how to approach a situation. My husband is a "react now, feel guilty after thinking about it later" kind of guy.
I have a large family. Six children. In a world where people are choosing to have fewer children (or none at all), this can seem weird and insane and, for some, unacceptable. These people always come out to play when I mention anywhere in my article that six kids live in my house.
Walking in the woods or in a park is a great way to unplug and connect with nature. Find a nice path or field, or visit a park in your city. Leave the phones and devices at home. Being present in nature gives kids a chance to calm the nervous system and reduce the impact from being in front of a computer screen.
Once your calm is felt by your child, it's sometimes startling how the child perceives your love and care. They know their behavior upsets you and sense your huge effort to be there for them. That's when they may begin to share that something is troubling them.
Children don't record the hours and unravel them backward. A child's mind is not a computer, tracking your mistakes like changes in a spreadsheet. They are not keeping score. They do not. They can not.
The first few weeks of motherhood, while they were very sweet, were also such a transformation. Every single aspect of the person I was moments before my baby entered the world seemed gone. I acted differently, I cared differently and I thought differently. I was forever changed.
The reading logs are especially important for those kids who do not opt to read on their own, yet still need nightly practice.