When my daughter was born, I was ready. I had my facts straight and knew exactly how I wanted my daughter to feel about her body. To think about her self-worth. I was prepared to wage war on negative body image. Never in a million years did it occur to me that my real concern should have been her twin brother.
A close friend listened compassionately as I explained my plan to "do the right thing" and stick it out no matter how I felt. She then asked a question that would change my life: "Do you truly think an unhappy mother can raise happy children?" No. I didn't. And I don't.
Have them write down all the evidence supporting their thought and all the evidence negating their thought. Then ask them to have a debate--with themselves. Self-disputation is an excellent way to combat anxious thoughts. Remember, the goal here not positive thinking; it is accurate thinking.
The concept of "blended learning", which was introduced as early as 2000, has assumed more importance than ever before and has transformed from a theoretical concept with rudimentary applications to an essential part of mainstream education.
Holidays --"holy days" -- force us to relax. We take a break from our hectic, technology-toting everyday lives. This year, use Valentine's Day to slow down and reconnect, to honor your closest relationships, and to be grateful for your family. You have a whole day to feel the love.
At its best, Valentine's Day is a reminder to recognize the loves in your life. It doesn't have to be formulaic or mandated from large corporate interests. And just because those corporate interests exist doesn't mean we have to scrap the entire holiday.
We know we won't get as much sleep. We know the love of this one new person in the world will be so powerful and crushing that it will affect every decision we will make. But, what we also sort of felt when we started this game of parenthood is that, at some point, things would go back to the way they were before her.
I'm trying hard to relish the waning years of little-kidness remaining to me. Mostly, I have to be actively mindful of my limited time in this space. My kids are getting bigger. I have to get all the cuddles now.
Every parent has said it. My parents said it. My husband's parents said it. I'm pretty sure my great-great-great-grandparents said it, but back then it sounded more like, "If you keep sassin' your pa, I'll turn this buggy around, an whoop your ass down by the crick.
The truth of the matter is that my baby has just as much right to be on a plane as any adult. When we are flying, I do my best to keep the chaos to a minimum, but chances are I'm more bothered by my child's crying than the guy across the row from me is.
Walk into any grocery store to buy orange juice and deodorant and you'll have a decision with which to contend. Which of the 25 types of orange juic...
As a parent, you may hate to say no. Maybe you want to dodge the emotional reaction to your child hearing "no" or be your child's friend more than their parent in that moment. Yet, learning to say a quiet firm 'No' is a gift we give to our children and to ourselves.
I still wonder if maybe I missed the call for the "perfect" baby. I wonder if I am to blame. I then remind myself that it isn't just me, or my son and other mothers feel the same. We just need to know that we are OK.
Remember your kid this Valentine's Day with something special. Of course you're not the love of his or her life, but when t(w)eens feel unloved and unlovable (like Freeze Up Dude and the gang) it's a nice thing to be reminded that Mom or Dad cares.
At that moment, Annette discovered her true calling. She went from being a postal worker to becoming the leader of a charitable organization that has raised $35,000 for pediatric cancer patients in less than two years.
It is important that we remember that children want to succeed and feel good. When they are avoiding or refusing to go to school (their job), it means something isn't right for them and it is our job as parents and educators to figure it out.