Most days I don't get my whole to-do list done, and some days I don't do any of the list at all. But it's not the end of the world -- I always have the list to come back to, like a compass showing me the right course, and know that these are the things in my life that matter to me.
There is no right way to raise your children. There is no hard and fast rule about what will work in your home, with your particular family, your child's unique personality, the circumstances you are in, the luck or challenges that come your way.
We hold back, wanting to let our adult kids make their own choices and their own mistakes. These choices are so much bigger than when they were small -- marriage, jobs, having children. Watching them figure these things out is like holding back the tide of an internal ocean.