If I could talk to every new mom before they began their mommying journeys and give them any tiny bit of advice and encouragement, this is what I would tell them.
Parenting is exhausting and mind-numbing at times. It is OK to say, "I will not miss those days."
I think this kind of talk about babies and motherhood doesn't do new parents any favors.
On the eve of her fifth birthday, I kneel quietly next to her bed and watch the slow rise and fall of her chest, remembering all the times they had to resuscitate her and counting my blessings.
You are not alone.
Don't be afraid to ask for help! If someone wants to bring you dinner, let them.
Why, I wonder, do people want to know? Do they have tips to share? Stories to swap? Or are they seeking information that helps them make some kind of judgment about my parenting?
In the last five years, I've given birth to three beautiful children -- and every time, as I walked into the delivery room, I was absolutely certain that one would be my last. What happened?
I was pregnant from top of my head to the bottom of my swollen feet.
My hope is that by sharing the answers to these seven frequently asked questions, I'll help you gain insight into adoption, the adoption community, and the need for more families to adopt children from our domestic foster care system.
I don't ask for much, which is why there are only six qualities I consider as requirements if we are going to jump into mom-friendship together.
You develop a new appreciation for the sound of silence -- blissful, amazing silence.
Every day, you'll love your babies -- all of them -- just a little bit more, until one day, that love overtakes the pain.
A dog owner cannot have nice things. A parent cannot have nice things. If you are in the middle of that Venn diagram, you cannot have things. Case closed.
Hold your head up high, woman. Don't think for a second that this isn't good enough because the original plan wasn't working. That doesn't mean you're a failure. Do you hear me saying this?
Newborns have to eat throughout the night. Sleep patterns don't get established for several months. Your normal sleep routines will definitely be disturbed. You're going to be tired, my friend.