This isn't all your fault, Santa. The focus on girls' appearance to the exclusion of everything else is so deeply entrenched in our culture that we often don't know what else to say to them. Despite our best intentions, we have no frame of reference to engage with girls on any level other than the superficial.
As I frantically search Amazon for the perfect Lady Bug costume that isn't too itchy, has antennas and comes with a tutu (but not a black one, only red), I can't help but feel conflicted. Gifts are a huge part of the exhilaration children feel at Christmas, but I don't want it to be limited to that.