While we can't turn off our brain's natural tendency to lump people and things together, we can understand and help influence the meaning we assign to those categories and to push ourselves to think beyond the stereotype. But it takes effort.
One of the main factors that sets great relationships apart from merely good ones is the depth of emotional intimacy. There are, of course other factors that contribute but authenticity, vulnerability and deep emotional connectedness are right up there at the top of the list.
In the quests for "doing the right things" for our children we are busy people. The big question is how do we fit it all in and maintain some feelings of adequacy? We mean to take a deep breath and keep moving forward, but sometimes it feels like too much.
Your feelings come from the inside (from your thinking) only. Simply grab hold of this principle and see how easy it becomes to override your judgmental dispositions, find loving and inspiring feelings, and uncover a fresh outlook about anything.
In order for anything to exist, it must be distinguished from everything else. If no distinction is made between a specific thing and everything else, then there is only an undifferentiated everything -- which is another way of saying nothing.