So what did I tell my ex? That while I understood and respected his need for closure - to get things off his chest - and I was grateful for my time with him, I needed to close the door on that chapter of my life. I wished him well and much peace and happiness, but told him that lunch simply wasn't in the cards.
Surprising and sometimes shocking to me, people often tell me they want a life exactly like mine or that they even want to be me. The most curious is when people comment on how I have more energy than anyone they know because the past few years have been very difficult and I feel pretty exhausted a lot of the time.