For the longest time, I was always putting other people's agendas first. I'd invest a lot of time and money into others and the things they were doing, and I rarely got the same time and attention in return.
Creating boundaries at work can be tricky but it all starts with a little courage and some effective communication. Don't attempt to set all your boundaries at once. Just take it one conversation at a time and practice identifying, asking for and sticking to your boundaries.
This idea was a game-changer for me. For years, I've berated myself for not always knowing where my personal boundaries ought to be. So every time I stayed up too late or let people keep me on the phone too long, I'd feel like a failure. Shouldn't I have known better?
It's important because it separates our experience from other people's experiences. It's important because it allows us to take better care of ourselves -- emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually -- so we feel so much less stressed, overwhelmed, and out of balance.
As young women begin college with anticipation and enthusiasm, these are a few of the roadblocks that too often sabotage the empowered and joyful experience they so deserve in this new chapter in their lives.
t's amazing how much more you can give when you're careful not to give too much. It's also pretty remarkable just how much more support you receive once you open yourself up to it and let the universe know you are ready.
There are many ways to help a child establish better boundaries, but the most important one is built upon what he observes in the behavior of those he watches most carefully -- his parents and primary caregivers.
There is a delicate balance between self-care and care for others. We want to be there for others, but if we are doing it to the detriment of our own wellbeing, we are doing a great disservice to who we are.
Takers can't take anything from us unless we give it to them. Having good boundaries is a balance of our needs and beliefs and what we can do to support the other person. We are authentic and genuine when we are in harmony with ourselves and the other's boundaries.
You don't have to tell your friend that you're not interested in dating -- he already knows. My guess is he's not going to be happy with the status quo. Once the cat is out of the bag, it is very difficult to put him back in.