I have a saying that peace is an active state of mind. We're trying to combine the sense of peace with the necessity for constant work. Peace was often defined as something languid and laid back, a state where you can fold your tent up, stop making an effort, and stop being vigilant. That's not what peace is.
According to a study by AARP, money can actually buy happiness. Their survey of 1,000 Americans aged 40-59 found that, "More financial security tops the list of changes that would increase one's happiness. Similarly, the top things people would have done differently in their lives pertain to finances."
You are going to be subjected to comparison. You are going to be "sized up." You are going to be criticized, scrutinized, discounted and dissected. But you know what? So what! You are going to be slapped in the face with humble pie, surrounded by passersby who will expect you to devour every unfortunate crumb.
Being ridiculously in charge of your own life doesn't mean trying to control the uncontrollable, or trying to "manage" every element of your life. And it doesn't mean never feeling bad or being upset. It means having the integrity to recognize what is real, releasing the human tendency to resist reality when it's uncomfortable, and developing mastery over yourself and only yourself.