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Personal Responsibility

Hiding From Others... and From Ourselves

Eldon Taylor | Posted 03.24.2013 | Healthy Living
Eldon Taylor

Remember, the greatest form of brainwashing is simply repetition. For some people, the repetition is within their own inner talk and thus, over and over, the negative is reinforced again and again. You can choose to stop that today, and I urge you to do so.

What to Do When Someone Pushes Your Buttons

Christine Hassler | Posted 03.18.2013 | Healthy Living
Christine Hassler

Are you willing to choose personal responsibility over taking things personally? I certainly hope so! Here is a 10-step process you can use when your buttons get pushed.

Shut the F**K Up (and the Beauty of the Death of Control)

Richard Melnick | Posted 03.21.2014 | Parents
Richard Melnick

Instead of being bossy, feel the vulnerability you seek to avoid by complaining and controlling. Give yourself a hug. Give your kid a hug. Shut the f**k up! Your kid doesn't need fixing.

My Hero, Lance

Richard Melnick | Posted 03.09.2013 | Sports
Richard Melnick

Like so many, I was overcome with emotion and pride at Lance's achievement. Then, just four months later, I faced my own cancer diagnosis and ironically, it was cycling that taught me to endure chemotherapy.

A Lesson in Accountability as U.S. Goes Over Fiscal Cliff

John Friedman | Posted 03.03.2013 | Politics
John Friedman

We're so busy expressing outrage and pointing fingers that we are not accepting responsibility for our own part in reelecting the same fiscal-cliff-creating, legislation-stalling, economy-risking people that we gave the lowest approval rate in history.

Want to Jumpstart Your Life?

Helene Lerner | Posted 02.25.2013 | Healthy Living
Helene Lerner

With the holidays here, I find it a great time to reflect on what I have achieved and to see how far I've come. It is also a great time to take a look at what I need to develop and to create new goals for 2013.

Be Willing to Feel

Richard Melnick | Posted 03.21.2014 | Healthy Living
Richard Melnick

Thirteen years ago, as a cancer patient with 3 and 5-year-old boys, I was afraid. I gained peace by asking myself over and over, "What am I afraid of right now, in this moment?" And the answer was always the same: nothing. My fears were all based on the future.

Why Pray?

Monique Ruffin | Posted 02.16.2013 | Black Voices
Monique Ruffin

Today, as we look at the faces of the 27 innocent souls who were gunned down, I hear and see calls to prayer all over the television and social media, but I wonder what it all really means. Will our prayers lead to some type of change? What are we praying for? Who are we praying to?

The Best Gift You Can Give Your Kids This Holiday

Richard Melnick | Posted 03.21.2014 | Parents
Richard Melnick

Your kids have the dexterity and intelligence to contribute. You'll be shocked by what they're capable of and the pleasure they may take in being helpful.

We Built That

Ron Davis | Posted 01.23.2014 | Politics
Ron Davis

President Obama's "You didn't build that" comment inspired much bluster from the talking heads. We almost had a substantive discussion, but the red meat was too delicious for the commentators to resist.

Do You Break Commitments?

Rory Vaden | Posted 12.31.2012 | Healthy Living
Rory Vaden

Commitment is not about finding the perfect circumstance; it's about dictating a certain choice. It's not about making the right decision; it's about making a decision and then making it right.

Are You Aligned With Your True Self? Try This Exercise To Find Out

Terri Cole | Posted 12.28.2012 | Healthy Living
Terri Cole

Questioning the status quo in your life is a way to reveal and honor your authentic self. An autopilot response is based on the past and someone else's choice or desire. In order to evolve and grow, you have to be willing to honor your authentic feelings and beliefs as they evolve.

How To Keep Your Promises

Melissa Van Rossum | Posted 12.28.2012 | Healthy Living
Melissa Van Rossum

The promises we make speak volumes about who we are. Whether your promise is as casual as committing to your partner that you'll eat better foods or as serious as eliminating abusive behavior, the promises we make -- to ourselves and others -- have tremendous power.

Do You Believe What You Say? Why You Should Challenge Your Own Beliefs

Dennis Merritt Jones | Posted 12.16.2012 | Healthy Living
Dennis Merritt Jones

Many of us give ourselves permission to say things we really don't believe; challenging our beliefs can serve as a filtering system that enables us to compare what is in our minds and in our hearts and to confirm there is a congruency between thought and belief.

It's Not Me... It's You

Barbara & Shannon Kelley | Posted 12.05.2012 | Women
Barbara & Shannon Kelley

So much of the rhetoric these days is about us taking responsibility for how we react and feel. But what if our negative reactions are normal and warranted?

'How Can I Make Others Hear and Understand Me?'

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 10.20.2012 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Accepting our lack of control over how others see and treat us is a major challenge for many people. It's important to realize that others often treat us the way we treat ourselves.

Erase Boredom (And Live!)

Michael Varrati | Posted 10.17.2012 | Healthy Living
Michael Varrati

This condemnation of boredom is something I have grown to appreciate as an adult, and is a lesson for which I am infinitely grateful. Just as I am sure it bothered my mom to hear me say it, few phrases set my teeth on edge more than when a friend complains, "I'm bored."

Money: Power of Your Attitude

Jinny Ditzler | Posted 09.19.2012 | Money
Jinny Ditzler

The purpose of this Money series is to put you in the driver's seat when it comes to your money. My aim is to support you to transform your relations...

Money: Moving From Pain to Prosperity

Jinny Ditzler | Posted 09.10.2012 | Money
Jinny Ditzler

Most of us are in a world of hurt about money. While you might not see a way to change the bigger picture, I guarantee you can improve things dramatically on the home front.

A Struggle of Not Struggling

Taylor Cotter | Posted 09.09.2012 | College
Taylor Cotter

I came down on the 'right' side of every statistic -- I found a job in my field that actually pays well, I'm living on my own, and seem to have everything that these other college graduates are dying to have. But what about that 10-cents-a-word life that I always wanted? What about New York City?

Does Self-Compassion Mean Letting Yourself Off the Hook?

Kristin Neff | Posted 09.02.2012 | Healthy Living
Kristin Neff

A common stumbling block when thinking about self-compassion is the belief that it just means letting ourselves off the hook. When we say "it's only human," isn't this just a way to blow off personal responsibility for our actions?

'Mistakes Were Made'

Shira Hirschman Weiss | Posted 08.12.2012 | Healthy Living
Shira Hirschman Weiss

While it is extremely difficult to admit when we make mistakes, honesty and humility are what make for a sincere apology.

How to Be an Awesome Human Being

Judith Johnson | Posted 08.08.2012 | Healthy Living
Judith Johnson

To be awesome is to recognize and accept the challenge of being the very best "you" that you can be. Those who live this way serve as an inspiration to others to do and be the very best they can.

Facebook Crybabies

Aaron Harber | Posted 07.27.2012 | Money
Aaron Harber

The Blame Game Begins The recent spate of complaints about Facebook's unspectacular stock debut includes thousands of investors who were upset FB's i...

You Don't Have to Do it All

Jinny Ditzler | Posted 07.09.2012 | Healthy Living
Jinny Ditzler

After a moment of desperation, I laughed out loud. Hopeless! The list is getting longer, not shorter. Do I really have to do everything I think I have to do? And my inner wisdom whispered, "No."