Yes, living your all comes with sacrifice. But by getting rid of the things and relationships that make you only somewhat happy (or plain unhappy), you get to live a life filled with what you love best, and then focus on them with everything you've got.
If we really want to be intentional in our lives, if we really want to stick to decisions about our success and happiness, then we must be OK with not being a part of everything... of anything other than what's going on for us right now.
Last year I stepped into a volunteer leadership position for an organization. I did my best with it, but I really didn't feel useful. Nor did I enjoy it at all. And so when the time came to renew it, I decided not to. But there was one problem.
If there's a fictional world you love but you know that it's dark and can negatively impact your mood or actions, then make sure you watch, listen to or read something lighter afterwards to balance it out.
I write a lot about personal technology and invariably, every time I do, I receive a similar comment in return. The comment, boiled down, is this: Technology is here to stay; get over it or learn to live with it.
Honking is something that feels OK for many of us to do, but feels terribly personal when it happens to us. Honking may create sound on the outside, but it happens because we're not too happy inside... and we need a release.
Enjoy the awesome stuff and make the most of it. And when the not-so-awesome stuff comes your way... allow it to happen, do your best to stay calm, deal with it, and know that it's on its way out, too.
I'll get all set and all comfy... and then that bright, glaring sunshine busts through the curtains, makes its way across the floor and lands squarely on my conscience, convincing me that I'm lazy for not basking in it.
The good news is that not every unexpected experience has been about escaping death. Instead, several have brought unexpected lessons for a happier life. Three recent lessons have proven themselves to be particularly happiness-building. I present them to you now..
Over the years I've gotten pretty good at being pretty crappy at some things. To be clear, I hate being crappy at things. It's not my intention, it's frustrating. But I also know that sometimes it's just necessary.
Know that life will hand you a stink every once in a while. Accept and feel your stink. Respond to it and remember it. And know that life's stinks are just part of the game. And you can handle it just fine.