Since the upcoming Royal Society meeting on evolution paradigm shift is a public one, one of its organizers -- British philosopher John Dupré -- recently agreed to answer some of my questions about the event.
By using our attention during a mindful meditation, we are training our brain to become more and more connected to the current moment. This has the effect of allowing ourselves to see what's actually happening, without getting caught in our opinion of the situation.
Our memories dictate how we will feel about a similar situation because our brain.body is coded from past experience. Bad experiences with intimacy are codified in your brain/body -- affecting our perception.