In her sexy, stormy, spiritual memoir, Honey in the River, Marsha Scarbrough explores the contemporary relevance of ancient African wisdom teachings, wrapped around a love affair with a married African shaman.
The idea of a polyamorous relationship is probably shocking to a lot of people, but for Bob Lanning and his partner Don, who was often away for his job as an airline pilot, it was just the right thing to do.
Different people are important to you in different ways, and by cutting yourself off from everyone and putting all your eggs in one basket you're only setting yourself up for disappointment. It's very hard for one person to fill all your needs.
While I don't go searching for men in relationships, I also don't pretend I feel nothing when it's not the case. I won't try to sleep with your boyfriend, and it's extremely unlikely, but I can't promise it won't ever happen.
One year, several years ago, I asked my mom if I could bring my then-boyfriend home for Thanksgiving. "I think that would make me and your stepfather very uncomfortable," she said.
It's not that she didn't like my boyfriend. It's just that I'm happily married to someone else.
While discussing what "poly" is with a commenter on my last blog, I realized that there really isn't a reason to place a definition on it. However, there is a need for open-mindedness about other people's relationship dynamics.
One thing about polyamory and non-monogamy that's both a blessing and a curse is that working through feelings and needs becomes an art form. It is not a scientific discovery that everyone has different needs.
In the comments on a recent piece of mine, a woman wrote that she is polyamorous -- she is living with, in love with, deeply committed to, and basically in all ways but legally married to a man and a woman. I asked if she would be willing to let me interview her.
A trip to transcending boundaries, something that rarely happens in a heterosexual-based society, is a way to push the envelope. Built on a growing community, there is something for everyone who has ever been viewed as "different."
I have welcomed Eric's recent marriage to Patricia with an open heart. At the same time, Eric has been understanding of my need to live a long distance away and find other partners, despite ongoing arguments.
When I begin freaking out, planning my escape route, I try to remember my rule of thumb: I do not need to "love" my partner's partners. I may not even "like" my partner's partners, but I do need to be able to conduct myself civilly with them.
Open marriage is happening all around us. And no walls are going to come tumbling down because of it. Living openly is about living honestly, loving fully, and being able to embrace that choice freely.
I met Jemma at an art gallery. She had told me she was straight. But after about six months of spending time together, we went away on a weekend trip. It was on that trip that she asked me to kiss her...