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This Is the Opposite of Jealousy

Renato Barucco | Posted 11.24.2015 | Gay Voices
Renato Barucco

Psychologist Bram Buunk studied the fascinating emotion we call jealousy over the course of four decades. The focus and the critical questions of his ...

KillJoy's Kastle: Sexiest, Smartest Haunted House Ever!

Lisa Derrick | Posted 10.28.2015 | Arts
Lisa Derrick

October 30th marks the last day of KillJoy's Kastle, the smartest, arty-ist haunted house to ever grace West Hollywood.

Sharing the Stories of LGBTQ Youth: Matt, 15, Ossining, N.Y.

Diana Scholl | Posted 10.07.2015 | Gay Voices
Diana Scholl

"I feel like the sooner I can go on hormones, the better. I've been known at Matt since 8th grade, and have been using masculine pronouns since the beginning of 9th grade. But there are certain people who might not fully accept me until I am transitioning."

Embracing Bisexuality on My Own Terms

Kayley Whalen | Posted 09.23.2015 | Gay Voices
Kayley Whalen

I am a proud bisexual polyamorous transgender woman. Those are all identities I have had to fight for, and the journey to embracing each of those identities has been intertwined.

How To Enjoy A More Creative Sex Life Without Upsetting Your Partner

Pamela Madsen | Posted 09.18.2015 | Fifty
Pamela Madsen

So what is a "Relationship Pioneer" and how does anyone stay together happily for 10, 20, or 30-plus years? I think a 'Relationship Pioneer' is all of us that are not willing to throw away our 'foundational relationship' because we need something more added over time: whatever THAT more is.

Will Tech Ever Make Arranging a Threesome Easy?

Inverse | Posted 09.01.2015 | Technology

The process of finding a partner -- or partners -- for polyamorous fun is hindered by awkwardness and libido-killing logistics. Dating sites and apps like 3nder and Mixxxer are trying to make the process seamless, yet stories of frustrated couples abound.

An Introduction to Outsourcing (Not the Donald Trump Kind)

Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A. | Posted 08.26.2015 | Women
Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A.

In all relationships, we are in an ongoing negotiation of desires, boundaries, and capacities. Each of us needs to honor the other's desires and be as honest as possible about our own, knowing that we will sometimes feel disappointment in the face of differences.

Why Divorce Can Be Good for Your Health: New Evidence

Douglas LaBier | Posted 08.17.2015 | Healthy Living
Douglas LaBier

The study examined the health outcomes of people who are divorced, as well as unmarried, cohabiting couples. Published in the American Journal of Public Health, the research has implications for younger generations, as more people pursue unconventional relationships and divorce continues to be an option.

'Marriage Equality' and the Politics of Love

Tim Ward | Posted 08.03.2015 | Impact
Tim Ward

Polyamorous partners do not have the privilege of legal marriage. I interviewed author and poly advocate Dr. Anya Trahan about the Supreme Court Decision, and what she sees as the way forward for those who embrace ethical loving with multiple partners.

Open Relationships: What the Real Rules Need to Be

Michael Radkowsky | Posted 07.24.2015 | Gay Voices
Michael Radkowsky

When people consider opening their relationship, they focus more on the benefits than the challenges. They think, "surely we should be able to do this and keep our relationship safe and secure."

Legalized "Cheating" in Marriage

Gracie X | Posted 07.21.2015 | Women
Gracie X

They object to us "breaking the rules" of marriage. As if there is one correct way to do marriage. The idea of me desecrating this institution actually frightens them. But what frightens me is the idea of somebody else controlling my sexuality.

Harem-seeking Men Use Legalization of Gay Marriage to Pursue Legal Right to Hoard Women

Lori Day | Posted 07.14.2015 | Women
Lori Day

Plural marriage of the polygynous variety is patriarchy on crack.

Polyamorous Attorney Agrees SCOTUS Decision Could Lead To Group Marriage

The Huffington Post | Kira Brekke | Posted 07.05.2015 | Gay Voices

One of the conservative right's favorite arguments against legalized same-sex marriage nationwide is that it's a slippery slope that could lead to pol...

How Gay Marriage Could Improve Straight Marriage

Gracie X | Posted 07.02.2015 | Gay Voices
Gracie X

SCOTUS's decision to make gay marriage a constitutional right in all states is a landmark victory for the gay rights movement. But could it also be a victory for the institution of marriage in and of itself? Justice Ruth Ginsberg repeatedly argued that gay marriage is part of a civil rights continuum. But could it also be part of a continuum that improves what it means to be in a committed relationship?

#Trending Online Dating Personalities

Jamie Silverman | Posted 07.01.2015 | New York
Jamie Silverman

When you go on as many dates as I do, you start to notice some trends of the types of men who frequent the digital date-osphere. After a slew of less than memorable dates over the last few weeks, I felt inspired to put pen to paper to write out some of the #trending personalities of the online male dater.

Torn Between Two Lovers? The Spiritual Path to Choosing Both

Tim Ward | Posted 06.25.2015 | GPS for the Soul
Tim Ward

Have you ever found yourself loving more than one person and feeling the pressure to make a choice? Most of us don't question the basic social structu...

How to Have a More Sex Positive Marriage

Gracie X | Posted 06.24.2015 | Weddings
Gracie X

Taking the attention off what is forbidden, and putting the focus on what is actually happening in my relationship is a healthier situation that fosters growth and passionate connection.

Is it Possible to Cheat in a Polyamorous Relationship or Open Marriage?

Gracie X | Posted 06.18.2015 | Weddings
Gracie X

It happened to a good friend of mine. She called me up one night very upset. She and her husband had been polyamorous for over 10 years and she found out that he was "cheating" on her. This brings up a really good question. Is it possible to cheat on your partner in a polyamorous or open relationship?

Ridin' on the "Threeway" of Love (Without a Pink Cadillac)

Josh Sabarra | Posted 06.09.2015 | Gay Voices
Josh Sabarra

It was the first time I'd been invited to join a threeway. "Hey, handsome," Sam began in a private Facebook message, "you seem like a lot of fun." A certified-platinum approval addict, I bit into the hook like a fish desperate for seven (or eight) inches of worm.

5 Things You Should Consider Before Starting An Open Relationship

The Huffington Post | Noah Michelson | Posted 05.28.2015 | Women

From swinging to polyamory, many people are now considering non-mongamous relationships. Recently, the HuffPost Love+Sex Podcast explored ethical n...

2 Steps To Creating A Successful Open Marriage

Gracie X | Posted 05.14.2015 | Weddings
Gracie X

Think in terms of qualities. My husband and I have a commitment to play, nurture and grow with each other. The balance of those three elements really appeals to us. We want to have fun in a safe but also edgy environment--so that we continue to evolve together.

Marriage Wishes: I Want More Sex!

Gracie X | Posted 05.07.2015 | Weddings
Gracie X

If you have a disagreement about domestic chores you can hire someone to clean your house. But if you are out of sync sexually-- who do you hire? A therapist? What if you gave that a try and it still didn't correct your divergent libidos. It seems as if your only options are have an affair or get a divorce.

Fostering Compersion: The Polyamorous Principle that Can Strengthen Any Relationship

Gracie X | Posted 06.29.2015 | Weddings
Gracie X

Compersion is an authentic feeling of pleasure that can't be faked, forced, or conjured up. It happens organically. It's like the spontaneous feeling I have when I see my kids thrive--I am overjoyed when they come home exuberant after having ventured out into the world.

How To Explore Love And Sex With Multiple People While In A Relationship

Gracie X | Posted 06.15.2015 | Weddings
Gracie X

I offer this list to share all the creativity out there. It's meant to give some names to the different ways we can make intimate connections with others -- because, why not broaden the possibilities for who we choose to love?

My Husband's Attraction To Other Women Turns Me On

Gracie X | Posted 05.30.2015 | Weddings
Gracie X

The seductive glow that a stranger can elicit is thrilling. Polyamorous people call it 'new relationship energy.' The sudden affirmation that a newcomer finds you desirable is a real high.