The locker room is believed to be a safe place. We women are discreet in the locker room. We try not to look directly at one another as we're getting in and out of our bathing suits. There is a level of intimacy.
I don't typically don't get to be off-duty when my autistic daughter is around other kids, and I sure as hell don't get to sit back and devour the latest beach read when I bring her to the pool.