Defining an affair used to be relatively simple. One or both partners in an intimate, exclusive relationship begin a sexual relationship with another person without their partner's knowledge or permission. The emergence of the Internet has widened the playing field.
One bit of minor calendar news before we get on with it: for the next two weeks, this column will be on hiatus. Instead, it will be pre-empted by our annual awards columns where we note the notable and laud the laudable from the past year.
My husband Dirk and I have just one rule in our relationship: "Never bring home anything you don't want to share." It works on all sorts of levels.
After spending time with Keller, I learned how thoughtful, intelligent, and affable he is. This man is definitely one to watch. I wouldn't be surprised if one day his bio changes from "Colby Keller, porn star" to "Colby Keller, art star."
No small person should be let loose on this earth without a guardian angel. Most of us have them, human ones, in the shape of moms, dads, grandparents, or other people who believe wholeheartedly that we need to be kept safe when we are children.
As a sexual addiction and intimacy disorders specialist, I am often asked about the frequency of sex. Couples want to know what is "healthy." Usually, they're afraid they're either having way too much sex or not nearly enough.
I made a porn. Have I always wanted to film a porn? No. But when James Deen tweeted that he was accepting submissions from regular folks like me to film scenes with him I laughingly turned to my coworker and said, "Oh, let's submit!" I was the only one who submitted.
photo authorized by Salvatore Iaconesi Living without Internet nowadays is like living without electricity. It may be doable and even romantic, but...
The focus is always on the perpetrator. But, what about the children whose photos or videos he has in his possession? What circumstances occurred whereby they were used for pornography? Who did this to them? How are these photos distributed? Who is trying to help these children?
There is one huge side effect of pornography usage that Hugh Hefner and the Playboy Philosophy does not mention: Pornography neuters a lot of men.
Women are incredibly powerful to men. In fact, women are so powerful that it's overwhelming. Men need women to survive emotionally: our approval, our support and our encouragement, all of which enables them to flourish in the world. He idealized his wife so much that he felt small.
Women have been working to stop these crimes against girls for years. But until men stop providing the client base for child porn and child sex tourism and child brides, nothing will change. And millions more girls will be lost forever.
I would compare "Don Jon" to "The Graduate," "Manhattan," "Raging Bull," "Eyes Wide Shut" and the greatest film about masculinity I've seen, "Carnal Knowledge."
If you've seen ads for Don Jon that make it seem like a fairly standard romantic comedy, it might surprise you. But that's because Don Jon often feels and often looks like two kinds of movies awkwardly mashed together.
It would be a mistake to make Jon's preoccupation with pornography the focus of any commentary -- any more than the world we existed in back then could be considered the major cause of Tony Manero's issues. They are simply backdrops to the more pressing issue.
Thanks to porn, growing numbers of women now find themselves in relationships with men who are suffering from sexual dysfunction, which affects the women as much as the men. After all, if your man can't get it up, keep it up, or reach orgasm, your sexual pleasure is likely to be diminished.