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Positive Discipline

26 Phrases To Calm An Angry Child

Renee Jain | Posted 05.17.2016 | Parents
Renee Jain

Next time you are dealing with a tantrum from a toddler, or cold shoulder from a teen, put your best foot forward by trying one of these 26 phrases.

Why I Praised My Kid For Threatening Me

Sarah MacLaughlin, LSW | Posted 04.08.2016 | Parents
Sarah MacLaughlin, LSW

After getting myself calm, I could see his threat for what it was -- just a threat -- and an indicator that he was stuck in his emotional brain. He was not rational, but, he hadn't spiraled into a full-blown meltdown, either.

Tantrums Tamers: 32 Phrases to Use With 3- and 4-Year-olds

Andrea Nair | Posted 10.07.2016 | Parents
Andrea Nair

The trick to communicating successfully with 3- and 4-year-olds is to be clever, funny, clear, rested, and to have a method to calming yourself down as fast as possible.

Parents, Please Stop Saying 'OK'

Andrea Nair | Posted 07.30.2016 | Parents
Andrea Nair

In our quest to attach properly, attune deeply, and respect thoroughly, many parents (me included!) have adopted the bad habit of saying, "OK?" when asking a child to do something.

Being Mindful Of Our Nice To Nag Ratio

Andrea Nair | Posted 06.03.2016 | Parents
Andrea Nair

Children push away from their parents when they stop enjoying being around them. Do you like to be around people who are continually on your case? Neither do your children.

Spring Cleaning For Your Life [part 1 / 3]

Dr. Suzanne Gelb | Posted 05.10.2016 | Parents
Dr. Suzanne Gelb

Tune up your mind. Spruce up your routines. A trio of checklists for parents, couples, and for your career. Spring is in the air. Tender flower buds...

33 Phrases To Stop Your Toddler's Tantrums

Andrea Nair | Posted 05.05.2015 | Parents
Andrea Nair

Here are some parenting phrases that can help increase a toddler's cooperation and reduce tantrums. The delivery of these lines usually goes better with a smile or goofy face.

How To Do An Effective Timeout

Dr. Suzanne Gelb | Posted 03.16.2015 | Parents
Dr. Suzanne Gelb

Remember: As a parent, your job is to give your child unconditional love and support -- but also to demonstrate that when you misbehave, there are consequences for your actions.

How Reading Logs Can Kill The Love Of Reading

Andrea Nair | Posted 12.21.2014 | Education
Andrea Nair

When children are told how much to read, they sometimes zip through the pages, not really absorbing the story or information just so they can get to the assigned page number to end at so they can stop. Forcing a child to read can stir counterwill, which instinctually will tell them not to.

Black Children Are Beloved and Beaten

Irene Monroe | Posted 11.19.2014 | Parents
Irene Monroe

Parenting is hard, and trying to figure the appropriate punishment gains nothing with the force of violence. Especially because it was done in the days of slavery, and in spite of the fact that it was done to us as children, it needs to stop.

However You Call It, 'Whooping' Kids Is Wrong And Cannot Be Defended

Andrea Nair | Posted 11.19.2014 | Parents
Andrea Nair

Can we all declare a clean slate? Can we admit that harsh physical punishment is no longer appropriate? We do know better so it time for all of us to do better in this regard.

What You Miss Out On When You Rely on Punishment and Reward

Heidi Mulligan Walker | Posted 11.18.2014 | Parents
Heidi Mulligan Walker

Relying on punishment and reward is a lot like relying on fast food; in the moment it can be instantly gratifying, but nothing is really achieved.

The Secret to Time-Outs That Work

Tracy Cutchlow | Posted 11.01.2014 | Parents
Tracy Cutchlow

Quick: What's the easiest thing to say when your kid misbehaves? "That's it -- time-out!" Easy, yes. But effective? Not the way most of us do it.

10 Ways To Become The parent -- And Role Model -- Your Kids Really Need

Dr. Suzanne Gelb | Posted 10.29.2014 | Parents
Dr. Suzanne Gelb

While nobody expects you to be a "perfect" parent, it really isn't that complicated to raise happy, healthy, well-adjusted kids.

Corporal Punishment: The Monster That Won't Leave Us

Devishobha Ramanan | Posted 10.22.2014 | World
Devishobha Ramanan

Schools have the potential to break the patterns of violence by giving children, their parents and communities the knowledge and skills to communicate, negotiate and resolve conflicts in more constructive ways. Losing this great opportunity could cripple the entire human race.

How To Be An Empathetic Parent, Even When It Feels Hard

Andrea Nair | Posted 09.21.2014 | Parents
Andrea Nair

Being more empathetic is one of my parenting and personal goals this year, so I started digging more deeply into this concept to understand how to put empathy into action.

What to Do When a Child Won't Listen

Andrea Nair | Posted 08.04.2014 | Parents
Andrea Nair

There are several factors involved in a child's willingness to cooperate. A child not doing what she is told is less about "not listening" and more about how able she feels to do what you want her to do.

How To Deal With The F-ing Fours

Andrea Nair | Posted 07.22.2014 | Parents
Andrea Nair

There are many factors that conspire to make parenting children of this age particularly challenging.

7 Alternatives to Punishment, Option 1: You Are Not Alone

Ashley Ryan | Posted 09.01.2013 | Parents
Ashley Ryan

As a parent, I'm sure you've had moments when you foresaw a disaster that was about to occur. And if we take a moment to think about it, we can usually foresee other recipes for disasters.

Disciplining Without Shaming

Dr. Peggy Drexler | Posted 06.24.2013 | Parents
Dr. Peggy Drexler

While discipline is crucial during all stages of raising a child, discipline is not about getting even, inducing guilt, or even punishing -- all of which are forms of shaming a child. Instead, disciplining, at any age, is about correcting and guiding him toward more appropriate behavior.

3 Simple Ways You Can Inspire Your Kids Right Now

Ashley Ryan | Posted 05.06.2013 | Parents
Ashley Ryan

The key is really stepping back and looking to see what is true for us and what's true for our children. If more of us did what we loved, I think there would be less projecting onto our kids.

Obama: Positive-Discipline And The Father-In-Chief

Esquire | Tom Junod | Posted 05.25.2011 | Politics

I understand Barack Obama. It is not always easy, but I do. I can even relate to him. Of course, we weren't supposed to need to. He was supposed to be...