Despite all of the noise going on before the Democratic and Republican conventions, if we listen inside and search for the good thoughts of your particular choice candidate who speaks to your heart, we'll all find the way to the right choice for president. That inner guidance will show the way.
Try and assess the ratio of positive to negative comments you make to each other. Chances are, you may need to make some adjustments in that regard, if you value your significant other and hope to celebrate many more love and romance-filled Valentine's Days together.
The truth is, we don't really take criticism well. Usually when someone gives us a critique, even if we know it to be true, we tend to meet that critique with anger or fear. We not only don't like hearing criticism; it has a profound effect on our psyche.
You can't hand children self esteem by telling them they're great. When you tell them they're brilliant or talented, it stunts them. They worry about doing something difficult that might expose them as not brilliant.
How can you practice seeing more of the positive qualities in others and live out loud by sharing authentically with them? I encourage you to join us in "living out loud" by going out of your way to share five simple positive truths each day.
Parents who reward effort, not grades, in my experience, seem to trust their kids more and treat them with more respect. This, in turn, leads to parents and kids enjoying learning as part of their family's values.
We became instant friends because we had so much in common: we both love God and Jesus Christ, work in film and television, he's also an author, love music -- he performs and I listen, and we both recently converted to Christian Orthodoxy and love Church.
Sunny Summer is past. The upcoming holidays are times of great loving and loneliness and we often don't know who is experiencing which. For many it is a bit of both. For us all this can be a prime time for kindness, sometimes simply by sharing what we have.
The best way to get what you want in your life is to give that very thing to others. If you want more love, give more love; if you want more friendship, give more friendship; and yes, if you want more praise, give more praise.
It might sound like a lot of work to just give a compliment, and yet if we are coming from a place where we want more meaningful connections with people we might have to challenge some or our "givens" -- this might include complimenting in a completely novel way.
Despite the celebration of life, there is still a family in mourning, missing a wonderful man, husband and father who impacted others in a positive way, as so many shared that day. I know their church community as well as friends and colleagues will rally around them.
Over the past three generations, theories about self-esteem have dramatically changed. Now the pendulum has swung in the opposite direction and it turns out my grandparents may have been on to something. There is mounting evidence that constant praise may be damaging our grandchildren.
I realized how important is for every one of us to feel like we matter -- that we're valued for what we do or say. We spend oodles of time worshiping people in the media whom we've never met, but often go about our daily lives without acknowledging the people we see every day.
The next time you leave your door unlocked and no one breaks in, the next time someone buys you a gift, or the next time someone does something nice for you, I'm not telling you not to thank God (if thanking God is what you do), I'm simply suggesting that people are also worthy of praise.
Kids with a fixed mindset believe that you are stuck with however much intelligence you're born with. When they fail, these kids feel trapped. They start thinking they must not be as talented or smart as everyone's been telling them. They avoid challenges, fearful that they won't look smart.
Here's the thing: Kids develop immunity to praise. They require higher and higher doses of it to be satiated. And as soon as parents and teachers remove the dangling carrot, children can lose interest in their activity.