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The Year of Speaking Kindly

Kindness Blog | Posted 12.16.2014 | Good News
Kindness Blog

Would you like to increase harmony in your life, cut the potential for conflict and hurting other people? If yes, then this challenge might be for you...

10 Ways to Show People They Matter and Why It's Important

Debbie Gisonni | Posted 01.17.2015 | Healthy Living
Debbie Gisonni

I realized how important is for every one of us to feel like we matter -- that we're valued for what we do or say. We spend oodles of time worshiping people in the media whom we've never met, but often go about our daily lives without acknowledging the people we see every day.

Praise the Lord or Praise the Person?

Myisha Cherry | Posted 12.09.2014 | Religion
Myisha Cherry

The next time you leave your door unlocked and no one breaks in, the next time someone buys you a gift, or the next time someone does something nice for you, I'm not telling you not to thank God (if thanking God is what you do), I'm simply suggesting that people are also worthy of praise.

The Benefits of TA-DA! -- Part II

Amanda Gore | Posted 11.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Amanda Gore

In fact, LOOK, ACTIVELY look for opportunities to see people doing something that would as a child have been followed with a "TA-DA!" -- at work AND at home. And then acknowledge them.

Why Some Kids Try Harder and Some Kids Give Up

Tracy Cutchlow | Posted 11.16.2014 | Parents
Tracy Cutchlow

Kids with a fixed mindset believe that you are stuck with however much intelligence you're born with. When they fail, these kids feel trapped. They start thinking they must not be as talented or smart as everyone's been telling them. They avoid challenges, fearful that they won't look smart.

Since You've Been Gone

S. Isabelle Harounian | Posted 10.22.2014 | Women
S. Isabelle Harounian

until our eyes meet again, dearest mother, until I am where you are -- above, beyond and over the clouds -- until then, know your heart beats in mine.

Stop Saying, 'You're So Smart!' 3 Better Ways to Praise Kids

Renee Jain | Posted 07.06.2014 | Parents
Renee Jain

Here's the thing: Kids develop immunity to praise. They require higher and higher doses of it to be satiated. And as soon as parents and teachers remove the dangling carrot, children can lose interest in their activity.

Appreciation: One Small Action with a Big Effect

Birute Regine | Posted 05.04.2014 | Business
Birute Regine

Expressing appreciation is one small change that each one of us can make. One small change that can make a big difference in the workplace.

Hate Receiving Compliments? You Might Have low Self-Esteem

Guy Winch, Ph.D. | Posted 04.16.2014 | Healthy Living
Guy Winch, Ph.D.

I consider low self-esteem to represent a form of psychological injury, one that impacts us "systemically" and operates in a variety of contexts.

Good-Mouthing

Bruce Weinstein | Posted 03.11.2014 | Business
Bruce Weinstein

Bad-mouthing -- who needs it? It's rude at best and unethical at worst. There is a concept that gets much less attention, but is sorely needed today: good-mouthing. I didn't invent the term, but I'd like to popularize it, so I can think of no better place to start than right here. With you.

Are We Parenting for the Short Term?

Mickey Goodman | Posted 02.08.2014 | Education
Mickey Goodman

Instead of rushing to their rescue, laugh together as you share stories of your fumbles in life. Teach your kids that failure is a chance to try again.

Don't Tell Your Children They're Competent

Dr. Jim Taylor | Posted 02.01.2014 | Parents
Dr. Jim Taylor

When parents try to convince their children of how competent they are, they often have the exact opposite effect. There is this little thing called reality that children have to confront on a daily basis; life has a way of sending messages about competence that can be in sharp contrast to the outsized messages of competence that parents send their children.

When Praise Hurts: The Psychology of Gushing

Wray Herbert | Posted 01.23.2014 | Science
Wray Herbert

We all want kids to feel good about themselves, and far too many kids get no praise at all from adults. But are the superlatives necessary? More to the point, does lavish praise really boost kids' self-esteem and help them do well in school -- and in life?

How to Feel Real

Denise Cummins, Ph.D. | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Denise Cummins, Ph.D.

Accept that everyone everywhere -- no matter how successful -- experiences the self-doubt that underlies imposter syndrome. It is part and parcel of becoming accomplished and successful. There is nothing unusual or wrong about feeling these things.

The Dangers Of Over-Celebrating Our Children

Kyle Redford | Posted 01.23.2014 | Parents
Kyle Redford

Children need to slow down, struggle and problem-solve in order to learn all the elements that go into worthy efforts. They also need to appreciate where their efforts begin and end so that they can take appropriate responsibility when their efforts succeed or fail.

Are Our Children Overpraised?

Kenneth Barish, Ph.D. | Posted 08.24.2013 | Parents
Kenneth Barish, Ph.D.

Children need praise. We all do. From early in life, children look to us for praise and approval, and to share moments of pride.

What if Frank Bruni Has a Point?

Stacey Gill | Posted 06.09.2013 | Parents
Stacey Gill

All parents, understandably, love and hope to be loved by their children. But that shouldn't be the goal to the exclusion of all others. And Bruni isn't far from the mark when he claims parents often half-expect children to be able to raise themselves without any set rules or boundaries.

The One Thing You Can Do To Make Your Adult Kids Happy

Donne Davis | Posted 06.06.2013 | Fifty
Donne Davis

We would all do well to remember Mother Teresa's wise words: "There is more hunger for love and appreciation in this world than for bread."

In Defense of Parents: A Child Therapist's Dissent

Kenneth Barish, Ph.D. | Posted 05.20.2013 | Parents
Kenneth Barish, Ph.D.

Here are the essential elements of a balanced, supportive approach to raising successful and caring children. It is not either/or. We can encourage our children's self-expression and also teach them self-restraint.

How to Praise Your Kids and Teens

Barbara Greenberg | Posted 05.14.2013 | Parents
Barbara Greenberg

Kids should be praised primarily for their efforts, rather than for their personal characteristics, because if they are praised for effort, then a poor performance is more likely to be seen as a glitch, rather than a valid reflection of who they are as individuals.

We Validate Our Parking, Why Not Each Other?

Ilana Ross | Posted 05.01.2013 | College
Ilana Ross

Like my haircuts, my birthdays never turn out just the way I want. Somebody important forgets to call and then I realize this is just a day like any other day in history. The next thing I know I'm two skim lattes into a blog post about my irrelevance in the world.

Negative Feedback: Confidence Crusher Or Motivating?

Heidi Grant Halvorson, Ph.D. | Posted 04.05.2013 | Healthy Living
Heidi Grant Halvorson, Ph.D.

According to recent studies, you shouldn't worry so much when it comes to pointing out mistakes to someone who is experienced. Negative feedback won't crush their confidence, but it just might give them the information they need to take their performance to the next level.

On Praise and 'Bribes': What the New York Times Got Right (and What It Didn't)

Emma Jenner | Posted 03.30.2013 | Parents
Emma Jenner

Children need challenges and increased expectations as they age, but change can be scary, and offering rewards -- coupled with choice and a sense of autonomy -- helps make their introduction smoother.

Our Favorite Spiritual Songs - What Is Yours?

Posted 12.06.2012 | Religion

Music has been called the language of the soul and the sacred can be heard in songs across religious traditions. Every person has a favorite spiritual...

What's the Difference Between Praise and Blame?

Doug Binzak | Posted 02.02.2013 | Healthy Living
Doug Binzak

Situations of being blamed or hearing negative things about oneself are obviously challenging to the ego. And in waking up that beast, they present more subtle challenges to the development of our ultimate human potential.