A 'does it or doesn't it?' debate is taking place among female voters in New York as they consider the candidacies of two politicians whose careers were rocked, at least temporarily, by sex-related scandals: Anthony Weiner, a former U.S. congressman now running for New York City mayor, and former New York governor Eliot Spitzer, in the race for city comptroller. The questions: Does it matter when voters know some of the most intimate details of their candidates' lives? Does it matter if they don't approve? The issue at stake in these elections isn't the personal sexual lives of men, but it is personal. And not just for the women who share their most intimate lives with these men. Women voters don't have to want to marry, or even like, Weiner or Spitzer. But they do have to be able to trust them.