Everybody wants to feel seen by the person they navigate life with, and that demands that they see your struggle, too. They'll never see it lucidly, though, because they'll never be in your human suit. But it's their responsibility to try to get as close as they can, and to be on your side whether they understand it or not.
Did you see the YouTube video titled "Drunk Kid Wants Mac and Cheese"? It went viral last Tuesday. Did you laugh at the UConn student demanding his favorite jalapeno-flavored drunk food? Did you think the belligerent, slurring and entitled kid was funny? If you did, let me tell you why you're wrong.
The idea that the majority is under attack is reinforcing to anyone who stands on the brink of losing unearned privileges they have long taken for granted. It hurts to be taken down a peg, to discover you're no better, no more deserving, than anyone else. Better to lash out, mobilize the masses. Misdirect them at an imagined enemy. Anything to maintain that privilege.