The goal is for the addict is to learn to securely attach to healthy partners and experience the joy of intimacy, which once tasted, can be so powerful it incinerates all illusions that sexual acting out can ever fulfill the deep inner longing for connection that all humans have in common.
"Wild" is a daring, inspiring film of one brave woman's self-overcoming and the journey she had to go on to own her life, to embrace all aspects and every minute of it, and release the "woulda-shoulda-coulda-didn'ts" that our minds are wont to create.
More often than not, women's economic dependence on men is bundled up with strong views against sexual promiscuity. But why? Are economic dependence and anti-promiscuity morality both symptoms of the same cause? Patriarchy, perhaps? Or does one bring about the other?
Progress isn't possible when shame is present. It's time for a more humane and loving approach. We must come together to foster compassionate dialogue grounded in scientific evidence about all of the available options to protect ourselves and take care of each other.
I'm fascinated to see how the world's media covers a paper out this week in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Science (PNAS). It has an irresistible combination of clickbait-ready elements: a cute small mammal, booze and serious questions about monogamy.
There were many times I was lucky not to have been hurt as I indulged in some serious stupidity, waking up god-knows-where and telling myself, Jill, remember how this feels. Remember just how low and dirty and rotten this feeling is so you don't do it again.
"Guys just want sex and aren't interested in relationships." It's the story we typically hear about male sexuality, whether it's guys like Barney on "How I Met Your Mother" or even General David Petraeus. But we haven't been given the whole story.
Lately I have really been deconstructing my views on sexuality to get to the bottom of why women are treated unfairly. I've invited back the gorgeous sex educator Carlin Ross to help me break down my issues.
The facts about sexuality should not be trivialized into a matter of opinion. As Daniel Patrick Moynihan famously said, everyone is entitled to their opinion, but everyone is NOT entitled to their own facts.
Our society operates on the unspoken principle that biology is destiny. We tell ourselves that men just can't help it. We convince ourselves that the dominant male hormone is to be blamed -- not men themselves.
How is it possible for an ordinary, controlling individual to care intensely about his friends without trying to change them? How can we give our treasured advice without feeling attached to its implementation?
Somehow, regardless of everything we know about sex education, regardless of everything we know about how little abstinence education works, we still shudder at the thought of our teenagers learning about sex.