It can be a scary thing for us to ask our friends, and furthermore our families and coworkers, to use language that makes us feel acknowledged and accepted when, in a lot of cases, these people have never been asked to do this before.
The subject of my parents is a hard one to tackle because they are tender and loving to me. They just can't align my lifestyle with their convictions and beliefs. Just like I can't align their lifestyle with mine. While this makes holidays complicated, it does not damage our love for one another.
Let's be clear: refusing to accept Caitlyn Jenner for who she is disrespects her and her accomplishments. It costs you nothing to identify her with her correct pronouns. Literally nothing. You don't lose anything by allowing Jenner to be herself.
With violence against trans people peaking right along with the media coverage, knowing who we can trust is more important than ever. Who gives a crap about Bruce Jenner's pronouns? I do. You should, too.