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Raging About Road Rage?

Jonathan Alpert | Posted 03.17.2014 | Healthy Living
Jonathan Alpert

Road rage continues to be a huge problem, as streets and highways are often where people's emotions, dramas, stress, and anxieties play out. I've tre...

5 Tips For Finding The Right Therapist For You

Daniela Tempesta, LCSW | Posted 03.15.2014 | Healthy Living
Daniela Tempesta, LCSW

After more than 15 years of seeing a variety of therapists myself, I've had my share of bad experiences. I've also had amazing, life-altering, not-sure-what-I-would've-done-without-'em therapists. So even if it sounds like you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your "theraprince," the result is definitely worth it.

Can Self-Loving End Your Love Life?

Jonathan Alpert | Posted 02.01.2014 | Healthy Living
Jonathan Alpert

Believe it or not, I've been asked many times if self-loving is cheating and about its potential negative impact on relationships and each time I thin...

Dealing With the December Dilemma

Jonathan Alpert | Posted 02.07.2014 | Healthy Living
Jonathan Alpert

Christmas and Kwanzaa are just days away, Hanukkah has just ended, and as always, for many people the issue of interfaith relationships still poses a ...

7 Ways to Ruin Everyone's Thanksgiving -- Including Your Own

Jonathan Alpert | Posted 01.25.2014 | Healthy Living
Jonathan Alpert

It's that time of the year again. The time when family dramas and conflicts that have been kept at bay will resurface and issues get stirred up. The time when we have to see people that we wouldn't choose to see the other 364 days of the year.

Found Your Soul Mate? 7 Reasons You Should Wait to Tie the Knot

Jonathan Alpert | Posted 01.23.2014 | Weddings
Jonathan Alpert

As a couples' therapist, I've come to realize that people rush to marriage and sometimes get married for all the wrong reasons or they do it way too early. Couples sometimes feel they have to get married because it fits a paradigm of how they see their life.

Fearless Self Image: How You Dress Matters

Jonathan Alpert | Posted 12.25.2013 | Healthy Living
Jonathan Alpert

So many of my clients are influenced by how they look and how they feel. If someone feels depressed and lacks confidence, this is reflected in what they wear, and conversely, if someone has a positive attitude and is confident, that will show in their attire.

How We Can Heal the World

Sandra Ingerman | Posted 01.23.2014 | Impact
Sandra Ingerman

All life is connected to what is called a web of life. In our modern day world, we have disconnected ourselves from nature, and this is causing illness on physical and emotional levels as well as impacting the health of the planet itself.

The Difference Between Good and Great: My Tips for Being Exceptional

Jonathan Alpert | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Jonathan Alpert

Defy the norm, be curious and don't accept the status quo. If you're striving for better than what exists, then think and dream big.

Are You Comfortable Being Uncomfortable?

Jonathan Alpert | Posted 12.09.2013 | Healthy Living
Jonathan Alpert

Finding the courage to face the short-term stress of change removes you from having to endure the long-term misery of staying stuck. In other words: short-term stress is better than long-term misery.

Be Fearless: Conquer Your Fear of Flying

Jonathan Alpert | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Jonathan Alpert

I recently had the opportunity to speak with Captain Tom Bunn, one of the world's foremost experts on fear of flying. What's unique about Captain Bunn is he isn't just an airline captain, but also a licensed psychotherapist and former Air Force jet fighter.

How Do You Know If Your Therapist Is Helping You?

Michael Bader, D.M.H. | Posted 11.30.2013 | Healthy Living
Michael Bader, D.M.H.

It's not always clear to patients what to ask a potential psychotherapist and how to know if he or she is any good. It's also hard to know if it's working. Most people find it easier to assess the skill of a medical practitioner.

What I Learned About Dating From Mom and Dad

Jonathan Alpert | Posted 11.23.2013 | Healthy Living
Jonathan Alpert

People should forget the fact that their friends are either married or engaged. They aren't part of their relationship. Nor is there a life script that says you need to adhere to societal norms or rush to get married just because others have done so.

Kicking Sidewalk Rage to the Curb

Jonathan Alpert | Posted 11.16.2013 | Healthy Living
Jonathan Alpert

Fact is, the pedestrian pace in big cities is slow by virtue of the density of people, so unless there's a mass exodus or you're moving to farm country that won't change.

Stop Being a People Pleaser!

Jonathan Alpert | Posted 11.09.2013 | Healthy Living
Jonathan Alpert

People pleasers are willing to do anything for the company, anything to make someone happy, and anything to help anyone in need. But people like this should not be exploited. And while kindness is a fine quality, it should not come at the expense of one's needs and personal happiness.

Be Fearless: Make the Impossible Possible

Jonathan Alpert | Posted 10.19.2013 | Healthy Living
Jonathan Alpert

Your beliefs are powerful. If you believe something is impossible, that belief will erode your confidence and turn that impossible belief into a self-fulfilling prophecy.

How to Be Less Than Perfect

Jonathan Alpert | Posted 10.12.2013 | Healthy Living
Jonathan Alpert

The constant need to make things even better and the obsessing over things can be exhausting and can wreak havoc on one's mood.

Powerful Philanderers on the Couch

Jonathan Alpert | Posted 10.05.2013 | Politics
Jonathan Alpert

Where there's a great risk, the level of excitement and thrill is heightened and there's an effort to push the envelope further and further. The greater the risk the greater the thrill.

If I Were Anthony Weiner and Huma Abedin's Therapist

Jonathan Alpert | Posted 09.28.2013 | Healthy Living
Jonathan Alpert

As a therapist who has helped countless couples, I've become aware that social media has directly impacted relationships over the past few years. An ...

How the Law of Attraction and Wishful Thinking Keep You Fearful

Jonathan Alpert | Posted 09.21.2013 | Healthy Living
Jonathan Alpert

Wishful thinking is usually an outgrowth of a fear. People don't resort to wishful thinking because it works. They resort to wishful thinking because it allows them to avoid confronting their fear. Wishful thinking allows you to avoid discomfort, stress, change, anxiety and pressure.

Why Do Women Prefer Sleep Over Sex?

M. Gary Neuman | Posted 09.15.2013 | Weddings
M. Gary Neuman

The Better Sleep Council reports that 79 percent of women would rather get a good night's sleep than have sex. Why is this? One reason may be that it's not so much that women are looking to avoid intimacy, they're just not seeing it as valuable as sleep.

Fearless Lie Detection

Jonathan Alpert | Posted 09.14.2013 | Healthy Living
Jonathan Alpert

Having trained the FBI and law enforcement personnel on lie detection, here are some tips you can use to detect if your supposed sweetheart is lying to you.

Cohabitating Fearlessly

Jonathan Alpert | Posted 09.08.2013 | Healthy Living
Jonathan Alpert

So often I see couples for therapy who just recently moved in together after knowing each other for a very short time. Is it being done out of convenience or is it the next step towards marriage? Be fully committed because any doubts will show and ultimately lead to troubles.

Don't Fear Your Mother-in-Law

Jonathan Alpert | Posted 08.24.2013 | Healthy Living
Jonathan Alpert

We're in the throes of wedding season and inevitably I see lots of in-law related issues either before or shortly after marriage. One of the most common issues is from the wife who feels that the mother-in-law gets between her and her husband.

Fearlessly Dating Online

Jonathan Alpert | Posted 08.17.2013 | Healthy Living
Jonathan Alpert

As a psychotherapist and coach, I'm in the unique position to hear from both men and women what they hate and love about online dating. I hear about red flags, things that work, and things that freak people out.